Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Recently I've been down in the slum. School transcripts and a girl at work have both been a burden on my back. I've had a thing for this girl at work for a while, we've hung several times, all of them having her over at my house cuddling and watching a movie. We've gotten close and at the same time not to the level that I wanted. Although she does give me constant signs at work, I can tell she is interested in me but at the same time I can't. I just can't read her at all I don't know whether it was me being a pussy, or me over thinking **** and not making a move. All in all, she told me the other day that she was quitting to work somewhere else closer to where she lived. That really brought me down, and I know it shouldn't. For a while this has been what I wanted since if I didn't see her, it'd be a lot easier for me to move on and forget about her, but at the same time I can't stand the fact that she's working somewhere else and most likely potentially meet a better guy than me. Do I want to stay friends, no not really I want more, I do want to keep her in my life, but If I do the feeling will stay there and it will constantly keep me down.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Why is it that you feel you can't date her even if she works somewhere else? Or maybe she's just a preoccupation for you from your other problems?
BobSacamento Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Are you kidding me?!?! This would be perfect! Now you can have her over, make your move and when you humiliate yourself you won't have to face her the next day! See I think that's what you fear - Making a fool of yourself and then having to see her everyday at work.
Author Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 No actually you got it wrong. I only see her once a week. See how the hell am I supposed to get over someone when I have to them once a week for a 3 hour period. I forget about her by the time Thursday rolls around and BAM feelings come back when I see her Saturday. By the way: This morning I woke up to one of her texts, saying "high of 15 biznatch I win." Stupid inside joke we had going on, so I reply back with want a medal for that? She replies and at the end she's asking me for a liquor boot. That really got me, so I replied with " It feels like your using me, and im not gonna become anyones personal boot." Im pretty sure she took that pretty hard since I didn't get a reply back. It was kinda rude, and I sorta feel like apologizing.
BobSacamento Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I have no idea what that whole text convo even meant lol.
Author Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 I have no idea what that whole text convo even meant lol. She texted me in the morning about a lil bet we had going on, she won. So I was like you want a medal for that? She replied with "worlds best temp predictor? nay, but could you boot for me pleease:)" That kinda pissed me off since I though she was using me simply beacuse I just turned 19 and am legal to buy liquor. I told her I wasn't gonna boot for her she was like ok why? Then I said "It feels like your using me, and I'm not gonna become anyones personal boot." She hasn't replied since, did I come off a little rough? Should I call and apologize?
Lucky_One Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 She texted me in the morning about a lil bet we had going on, she won. So I was like you want a medal for that? She replied with "worlds best temp predictor? nay, but could you boot for me pleease:)" That kinda pissed me off since I though she was using me simply beacuse I just turned 19 and am legal to buy liquor. I told her I wasn't gonna boot for her she was like ok why? Then I said "It feels like your using me, and I'm not gonna become anyones personal boot." She hasn't replied since, did I come off a little rough? Should I call and apologize? WTF is a boot? Is this someone who goes out and buys liquor for their underage friends? Well, anyway, I think you really don't care about her at all. if you can forget about a girl by Thursday, only to be attracted by her on Saturday and forget about her by the next Thursday, then she doesn't really do much for you at all. Saying you can't date her since you won't see her is just lame. And since you are so young, a word of advice. Leave your love life out of your work environment. If you DID date this girl, then it is a good thing that she works elsewhere.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 WTF is a boot? Is this someone who goes out and buys liquor for their underage friends? I was lost on the boot thing, too. Gotta love urbandictionary: 2. boot A person whom purchases alcohol and/or other adult items for minors. short for bootleg. I agree that it's time to move on. She does sound like she's using you for her own personal boot (otherwise she wouldn't have been so annoyed at being called out) and you sound like you won't be too broken up about it if you never saw her again.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 And no, I don't think you came off too rough in what you said. It shows you respect yourself. If I truly wasn't using somebody and they accused me of it, I'd talk to them about it. But if I really was and they called me on it, if they didn't matter much to me, I wouldn't respond. Sounds like you have your answer.
Author Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 And no, I don't think you came off too rough in what you said. It shows you respect yourself. If I truly wasn't using somebody and they accused me of it, I'd talk to them about it. But if I really was and they called me on it, if they didn't matter much to me, I wouldn't respond. Sounds like you have your answer. Yeah well, I called her back tonight, telling her not to take it that way and I explained to her how having to get me to get her alchahol bothered me. Anyways Yeah sort of an apology. Was this a bad idea or what. And to answer Lucky One. No I must have worded it wrong, I do care about her a lot and still think about her but at that time I'd force myself to try to get over her which never really worked out for me.
Author Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 What's also been somewhat bothering me is the thought of her working somewhere else and potentially finding a better guy than me. What the hell is wrong with me??!
xpaperxcutx Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 What's also been somewhat bothering me is the thought of her working somewhere else and potentially finding a better guy than me. What the hell is wrong with me??! Could be you're undecided in what you want. You're caring for her one day and a few days later you're not. Her presence only served as a preoccupation for you when you're looking for a companion. If she's truly goes away, I doubt you would even remember her name.
Author Funkymonkey Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Could be you're undecided in what you want. You're caring for her one day and a few days later you're not. Her presence only served as a preoccupation for you when you're looking for a companion. If she's truly goes away, I doubt you would even remember her name. I hope that's the case papercut. I do care for her, infact I think about her everyday. I just can't make up my mind.
BobSacamento Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 What's the worst thing that could happen? She's leaving anyway, take a few shots, man up and tell her how you feel.
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