cardinalfan5 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Im in high school and theres this girl tht really seems interested in me she stars and smiles at me alot and she asked me to dance 9 months ago. Do i have to ask her out myseklf? i guess what im trying to say is do girls ever ask out guys and what percent of the time do girls ask guys out?
DarkestDreams Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 If she asked you to dance 9 months ago, you might have missed your window of opportunity. Unless, of course, she is still showing interest. In this case, I would suggest that you ask her out asap. I have asked guys out in the past. Although I prefer not to do it, in the rare cases that I do, I am REALLY interested! But after I convey my interest, I take a step back and let him initiate. It really depends on the person, some girls like to do the pursuing, some would never do it, some guys like it, some hate it. Everyone is different.
confused_2008 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Yes, girls ask guys out...rarely. I don't even know how you would quantify a percentage. Either way, if you like her, ask her out. That will only make it easier when you get older and have to because most of the quality girls/women won't bother making a move because they don't have to.
Author cardinalfan5 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 just to follow up on darkestdreams she is showing alot of interest now were cming up on the end of the school year but im really shy and hve never asked a girl out. you think i have to ask her out? is there really no chance of me being asked out?
confused_2008 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 There's a chance she'll ask you out, but I guarantee she'll have more respect for you if you man up and ask her first.
Author cardinalfan5 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 but it is very rare right? girls expect guys to ask them out?
confused_2008 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 but it is very rare right? girls expect guys to ask them out? Is this a troll thread? When someone is this dense it usually sets off my troll radar. Are you onegoal? Anyway, yes I would say it's very rare, even though it's getting to be less so. Girls will drop hints and you need to pick up on them. Here asking you to dance was one of those hints. How are your interactions with her now?
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 She ALREADY asked you out once. Man up and ask her out. She's not likely to do it again. Not only is it not as normal (especially in grade school) for a girl to ask a guy out, but if he doesn't ask her out even after she's already asked HIM out, then she'll think he's not interested. So, no - I don't see her asking you out again. Grow a pair, hun, and ask her out.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 LOL some guys dont get hints, we need 2x4's upside our heads!!! Some women need to use the direct approach that works well with us.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 LOL some guys dont get hints, we need 2x4's upside our heads!!! Some women need to use the direct approach that works well with us. Agreed. I totally agree that some women can be too vague (and then complain that the guy just doesn't get it) and I agree that men don't get the "hint" thing. That's why I'm TELLING Cardinal what her "hint" meant - he needs to be the next one to make a move. LOL
prettybaby Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I have always asked all my boyfriends out myself. I think I'm part of a small minority though. Most girls just wait for the guy to make a move, or try to throw small hints around here and there, which of course never works because guys just don't get subtle things. And what's up with her asking you out to dance 9 months ago? Can you elaborate? Did you at least say yes and danced with her then? Anyway, yes, ask her out. What's the worst that can happen? She won't burst out laughing and giggle "you loooser" in your face lol So don't worry. Just ask her.
Island Girl Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Most girls just wait for the guy to make a move, or try to throw small hints around here and there, which of course never works because guys just don't get subtle things. I guess the girls you know don't know what the heck they're doing! The guys I wanted to ask me out always did. OP - she DID ask you out to that dance. I hope you went but that was 9 months ago. She probably was waiting for reciprocal action since she made that first move. I hope you didn't miss your window. Ask her out on a date. Just man up and do it.
prettybaby Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I guess the girls you know don't know what the heck they're doing! The guys I wanted to ask me out always did. Well aren't you special
Island Girl Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Well aren't you special Now, now. Don't be jealous.
sid3 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Why not tell her you think she's ute, then act bashful:lmao:
LostFocus Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Sometimes girls do ask guys out but in my experience it is a very rare treat. Most of the time if the girl is interested she will simply put herself out there. I think that you should get over your shyness and just ask her out. Eventually you are going to have to ask a girl out and some experience will help you feel more at ease in the future.
confused_2008 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Why not tell her you think she's ute, then act bashful:lmao: To build off this excellent advice: maybe give her a little wink, twirl your hair, then turn around and strut your stuff outta there.
sid3 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 or invite her to a blues game if they make the playoffs.
samspade Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Ask her out. For future reference, if a girl ever asks you out, it's gravy. You should do the asking out, and make the move for the first kiss. Women are excellent at subtlety. Learn to read their signs (body language, etc.) and you will know when to pick and choose your moments of action. I went through a lot of trial and error and am still learning A lot of women say "man up." It sounds like your manhood is being challenged, but don't take it that way....the truth is, having the guts to do these things is attractive to women. Chickening out will get you a lot of female friends. They're saying, "Be the man you know you can be." Good luck, buddy!
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Why not tell her you think she's ute, then act bashful:lmao: To build off this excellent advice: maybe give her a little wink, twirl your hair, then turn around and strut your stuff outta there. or invite her to a blues game if they make the playoffs. :lmao: LMFAO - OMG, this killed me. I had the same thoughts about a re-run of a previous post.
Trimmer Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 :lmao: LMFAO - OMG, this killed me. I had the same thoughts about a re-run of a previous post. Yeah, but c'mon, give the guy a break. He said he's in high school (when most all guys are still pretty much confused about this stuff...) and then he's actually being to timid, as opposed to our local Blues fan, who doesn't get when he needs to back down. Just the opposite...
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