westernxer Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 No, don't tell her it's because of her weight. I'd like to see him do it. It won't make her day. LOL
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 To you! One can meet lots of interested candidates if they're a drunkard, a drug addict, rude, dumb, etc. Most men prefer thinner women. She should strive to look her best and be healthy. Besides, I am not saying she can't meet the love of her life if she's overweight, but it sounds like she met a man she liked a lot and the only thing that bothered him about her is - her weight! Don't you think she should know that? I am sure it crossed her mind many times and that she was wondering if it bothered him. I am also not saying she should call her and tell her she is OW. I am just saying he owes her an explanation that he isn't interested in seeing her and give her a chance to ask any questions she may have. Get over you self RP seriously allot of men are just fine with overweight women I think less will admit it because its not always seen as socially acceptable mainly because of narrow minded shallow people.:rolleyes: You want proof lets see Ive had at least 6 lasting partners (1 proposed he was an accountant in NYC by the way def not a druggie or drunk he was a very nice classy guy) Ive never had a hard time getting sex ether If I wanted it! I wont give exact numbers but Ive prob gotten laid more then you and thats being overweight Imagen that! lol.. I'm not saying I'm the picture of health I have lost weight since moving here and I still have some to go. But I never want to be fashionably thin I can walk almost 3 miles in under 20 Min's now can you? Overweight doesn't always equate to unhealthy in every single case I'm sorry to burst your bubble. Sorry about going off topic there Bob I just had to respond.. Now to go back on topic I would be honest in the nicest way you can just tell her you really liked her and think shes a sweet women. But you had never dated a overweight person before and its just not for you and that she deserves some one who will be attracted to her total package mind body and soul.. If she cant except that or takes it as an insult then shes immature and prob a bit bitter and who wants a relationship with some one like that any ways...
allina Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Do you think I should still contact her? I think she pretty much got the picture considering she unfriended me on FB. I just don't want to rub it in. No, I say just let it go. Honestly de-friending someone on a site like FB after 24 hours of no contact is not normal. I don't want to be negative but this action on her part suggests that there are issues there besides the weight.
Cherished Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 I'd like to see him do it. It won't make her day. LOL Why, do you like to be rude and hurt someone's feelings? If she is actually overweight then she knows that. However, overweight to some men is curvy/hot to other men so what is the point of bringing up her weight? He is a total jerk if he brings up her weight at all to her.
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SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Why, do you like to be rude and hurt someone's feelings? If she is actually overweight then she knows that. However, overweight to some men is curvy/hot to other men so what is the point of bringing up her weight? He is a total jerk if he brings up her weight at all to her. I don't understand why whats so hideous about him telling her hes not attracted to her because shes overweight? As long as hes not needlessly cruel about it if he doesn't then she will assume he was OK with her weight all along because he dated her at all! So then she will start wondering what she did wrong?
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