Fred24 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I was married for 8 yrs prior to this relationship. I was with my GF for about 6 mos. It was a great relationship. There was about 10 yrs diff in age, she being older. I was always the type of person to not fall to hard for anyone. We met and both fell HARD for each other. I started to have issues with the ex and took them out on the GF. I didnt realize it at the time that i was taking it out on her. It just kept getting worse and worse. We separated a couple of times, but it always ended up with me pushing to get together again. We lived together for the majority of this relationship, except the times we needed to be apart. She recently has had enough and gave up on me. I did start seeing a counselor while we were together, but i went for the wrong reasons. I went to try to fix our relationship, not for myself. She became everything to me. This recent breakup has been the hardest thing in my life, ever. I am 29 yrs old and have never felt the way i did/do feel for her. Before her, i had my life figured out. Prior to her, the only ones i ever told i loved were my kids. Now that it is over, i feel soo empty and incomplete. I end up crying myself to sleep more often than not. I was never a person to cry, show emotion, or let anyone get to me. Ending things with the ex wife was so easy for me, I had enough, I told her I was done and she finally left. Getting the divorce isnt as easy though. I recently made the decision to leave the current environment near my family (mother, dad, sister, brother) and try to make a new start for myself. The family also had a lot to do with our relationship ending. I still keep in contact with the ex GF, not as much as i would like and not how i would like. In reality, I really still want to be with her and am still in love with her. I am at that point that i know i need to let go... but it is soo hard to do. I am writing in here in hopes of finding a way to deal with everything. I know I am not the first in a situation like this and I wont be the last.
Author Fred24 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 She still wants to keep in contact and does not believe in throwing someone away. I do not know if i can do the whole "be friends" thing...
megamanKC Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 The Wedding Singer. If it doesn't make you feel better for a couple hours, then you aren't human. Plus it'll give you some perspective. A couple hours is where it starts, right?
EmperorR Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 You cannot be friends so soon after a breakup, you cannot its impossible. How can you go from loving someone, to just "Friends", how can you go backwards? When your emotionally involved with someone how can you just turn it off and be ok with them talking about screwing someone new or going out for dinner with their new guy? You can only be friends when there is no emotional attachment, do you have any female friends? I do, it doesn't phase me when they talk about their bf's or any guy in their life in general, why? because I have no emotional physical attraction to them. The best thing you can do is go No contact, yes silence is golden, go nc heal yourself, work on you.
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