IAM SCARED : the guy i like and he likes me we are friends sometimes more than friend

[dakotamaiden]

theres a gal i work with told me friday she was going to hook him up with this gal she knows. Because when he went to get a massage for his shoulder he made her laugh the whole time. no one at work knows about me and this guy. we like to keep our private life private. our workplace is the worst gossipping place there is, we dont want to be talked about.

 

iam scared and feel insecure. i know he likes me. he doesnt want a relationship. iam sure he was just being funny and good nature like he always is. he was suppose to be making her laugh the whole time. thats just him.

 

he doesnt want to be in a relationship, we do good by being good friends sometimes more than friends. i know he likes me.

 

how should i feel, what should i do?? sometimes iam so insecure? iam scared ill lose him

can some one please help me

if he doesnt want a relationship he wont want to meet with her right???

[akklavi]

Sorry you're feeling so bad. It sounds like you really like this guy, and I feel for you going through this. Which just makes what I'm going to say, harder to hear. Unfortunately, he is not yours to lose. When a guy says that he "doesn't want a relationship" it means that he wants the physical stuff, but without any commitment. And commitment means that you have to stay faithful to one person. So he basically wants to be able to be with whomever he likes, eg: you and maybe this other girl or any other girl, but without having any commitments to you, her etc....

Please don't make the mistake that nearly all of us women have made at some point, and think that if you're nice enough, good enough in bed etc.. etc.. that he'll change his mind and want to become exclusive to you. We've almost all done it, and just come away feeling used and hurt. And ironically, you will lose the guy's respect too. There are loads of great men out there looking for a real relationship, who won't use you or mess you around, and will adore you and want to be properly with you.