Els Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Just curious, because I happened to read a few threads and the replies were almost emphatically NO. But what really is so wrong with it? It's not cheating, so it's not morally wrong. If the friend and the ex were never meant for each other anyway, and you felt a really special connection with the ex, that this person maybe, possibly, just might be the one you spend your life with... would you really throw it away just because they'd had a history together?
BCCA Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I think it all depends on the friend. Bros before hoes, chicks before dicks...all that other stuff. Friends are always going to be there, while most relationships dont work. The right move would be to talk to your friend and ask him for his blessing. If he says he doesnt like it, for me, that would be it. If my friend dated a girl 10 years ago and didnt like the idea of me seeing her, that would be the end of it. Its just respect. No one wants to see the person that represents a failed relationship, who could have hurt them very much, with one of their friends. You are free to do what you want, obviously. But if you were my friend, and you started dating one of my ex's without saying anything to me, our friendship would probably be over, and Id think that was a real douche move on your part. There are a million single women out there, why did you have to pick one of the few I have history with?
Timmers Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 It's just a little weird. Say you went out with a friend's ex and you were hanging out with the friend. It'd be pretty hard not to be curious about their sex, their romantic life, how they are together etcetc... Unless the two have totally, mutually cut it off with no hard feelings or jealousy, I don't see it working out. If that's the case, then I would ask the friend first about it.
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