Romantic Regrets ?

[soserious1]

If you had it to do all over again what if anything would you do differently?

[somedude81]

Made a move much much sooner so she wouldn't classify me as one of her brothers

[knaveman]

I wouldn't change anything because every experience has taught me something new.

[confused_2008]

I wouldn't change anything because every experience has taught me something new.

 

Same for me. Things that I thought would be regrets shortly after have only made me a better person. Everything happens for a reason.

[boldjack]

I would have treated women with greater respect, instead of like a side order of sexual french fries. One, in particular, a woman some years older than me, was as close to a "soulmate", as I've come, until I met my wife. This lady loved me like a rock, forgave me my cheating and always believed the best of me, until I proved what an arrogant fool I was , by leaving. I've grown and love my wife, with all of me, but sometimes, when a Lady moves a certain way, or when I hear a song that we used to like,I will be reminded, and will get an ache in my heart for her.

[knaveman]

mmmm...sexual french fries. can I get some ranch with that?

[BobSacamento]

Made a move much much sooner so she wouldn't classify me as one of her brothers

 

haha I'm with you man. I'd make way more moves.

 

As painful as rejection is, the thought of a missed opportunity is far more lasting and unpleasant.

[Woggle]

Not really.. It took getting used and abused for me to become the man I am today. Most people have to learn the hard way and I did at a young age.

[Queen of Hearts]

let go sooner. But, I don't regret not letting go sooner.

[marlena]

Hmm! Let's see. These come to mind first.

 

1) not having slept with a few men with whom I had great chemistry for various stupid reasons.

2) not having cheated on my ex-husband and divorced him sooner.

3) not having married my college sweetheart.

 

What about you soserious?

[soserious1]

Hmm! Let's see. These come to mind first.

 

1) not having slept with a few men with whom I had great chemistry for various stupid reasons.

2) not having cheated on my ex-husband and divorced him sooner.

3) not having married my college sweetheart.

 

What about you soserious?

 

 

I tend by nature's design to be soserious, I am logical. LOL,I should have followed what my brain knows to be true, that humans are at heart serial monogamists. If I could do it over I would have stayed single and not married.

 

We fill these forums with words, we fill our minds with words, supposedly trying to "connect"

but in reality just a smoke screen of white noise to help us avoid the truest connections of all, those connections that happen when we sit quietly with ourselves and just be. All the rest of this, boy/girl, love/marriage it's just a grand shared delusional system we use to distract ourselves away from just listening.

 

When you get down to it, my divorce was caused by one thing.. me not being true to my nature and allowing myself to be seduced away from listening by a bunch of white noise:)

[Jaytb]

When you get down to it, my divorce was caused by one thing.. me not being true to my nature and allowing myself to be seduced away from listening by a bunch of white noise:)

 

MMMMmmm, white noise. So romantic.

[carhill]

I'd have sex much earlier, like in my 20's

[Sibyl Vane]

I wouldn't have even bothered. And that applies to more than one person.

[Storyrider]

I'd have sex much earlier, like in my 20's

Carhill, why didn't you? I thought you've said before that you didn't want it in your 20s.

[carhill]

The topic is romantic regrets

 

Seriously, I put too much value on it and a certain person. Totally stupid of me. Hence the regret part.

[pollywag]

I should have followed what my brain knows to be true, that humans are at heart serial monogamists. If I could do it over I would have stayed single and not married.

 

 

EDIT: Never mind correction I just re-read and realized what you meant by "serial monogamy"...

 

The rest of your post I really enjoyed and would even agree with to varying degrees. I would wonder though how much of what you hear when you are in silence and with yourself is really coming from your inner being and how much of it is your mind. The mind is the number one obstacle that prevents us from getting in touch with our inner being.

[westernxer]

I'd have sex much earlier, like in my 20's

 

I'd have sex much earlier, like when I was 10 or maybe 12. LOL

[soserious1]

EDIT: Never mind correction I just re-read and realized what you meant by "serial monogamy"...

 

The rest of your post I really enjoyed and would even agree with to varying degrees. I would wonder though how much of what you hear when you are in silence and with yourself is really coming from your inner being and how much of it your mind. The mind is the number one obstacle that prevents us from getting in touch with our inner being.

 

 

The ultimate quest as you know is to sit quietly enough to truly hear

 

As for relationships, in being honestly true to my nature I think of something Einstein said

 

"My passionate sense of social justice and social responsibility has always contrasted oddly with my pronounced lack of need for direct contact with other human beings and human communities. I am truly a lone traveler and have never belonged to my country, my home, my friends, or even my immediate family, with my whole heart; in the face of all these ties, I have never lost a sense of distance and a need for solitude..."

 

in other words, I should have just had pizza delivered to the lab instead of going out for my dinner, would have saved me a lot of money :

[pollywag]

The ultimate quest as you know is to sit quietly enough to truly hear

 

As for relationships, in being honestly true to my nature I think of something Einstein said

 

"My passionate sense of social justice and social responsibility has always contrasted oddly with my pronounced lack of need for direct contact with other human beings and human communities. I am truly a lone traveler and have never belonged to my country, my home, my friends, or even my immediate family, with my whole heart; in the face of all these ties, I have never lost a sense of distance and a need for solitude..."

 

in other words, I should have just had pizza delivered to the lab instead of going out for my dinner, would have saved me a lot of money :

 

And Einstein was right. I cannot stress enough and I have said this many many times on this board, how important the relationship with the self is. Because no matter what goes on around us no matter what happens to us in relation with others or simply life, we must always know how to relate to ourselves. We come to this world alone and leave alone, the rest is all in how we choose get from point A to B.

 

Having said that though, the investment of love is a risk we all take and being in a romantic relationship with someone will conjure up all sorts of emotions. The good emotions is why we enter into relationships but once you experience loss you hang on to a lot of toxic emotions that ultimately alter how you act, but that is not you, it is your emotions. When you hang on to those emotions the only person you hurt most is yourself but it also proves to you that you create your emotions and just as you can create them you can also heal them.

 

Your relationship with you, should always come first.

[Trialbyfire]

I guess I should regret my relationship, engagement and subsequent marriage to my ex. I don't. He was a great lay!

[Storyrider]

The topic is romantic regrets

 

Seriously, I put too much value on it and a certain person. Totally stupid of me. Hence the regret part.

So you were saving it for your long-time crush who you've posted about before?

[O'bama]

I guess I should regret my relationship, engagement and subsequent marriage to my ex. I don't. He was a great lay!

Don't forget the substantial cash settlement!

[spookie]

I regret much of my passive aggressive behavior in my first relationship. I don't know if it caused our breakup because there were other issues going on, but I'm sure it didn't help, and it probably prevented us from resolving those others.

 

However... I just didn't know better at the time. Now, I do.

 

I regret the sequence of boys I dated in the span of time between said ex and moving out here to (attempt) to practice celibacy. Some of those experiences were fun, and I learned something from all of them, but most of those lessons weren't worth it: it being the loss of my self-esteem.

 

I'm very monogamous by nature, and I've always known what I want. Keep your eyes on the prize, keep your eyes on the prize..........

 

I don't think there's any point in dating, or sleeping, around.

[Trialbyfire]

Don't forget the substantial cash settlement!

Actually, I have more cash than he ever did.