cadman Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Heres my story as short as possible...a coworker and i met about a year ago and worked together on different projects and always got along very well...i was married and she was dating someone...2 months ago i started divorce proceedings....shortly after that i run into her in the hall and she finds out that im seperated and i find out she left her boyfriend...since then, we've gone to happy hour with coworkers together and have had lunch, just her and I, 3 times, all have seemed to go well...i wasnt looking to get involved with anyone but she is an incredible woman and i dont want to miss a possible opportunity to go out with her (assuming she would say yes, that is)...any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated...do you think its too early to ask her out, after 3 lunches and her and i only being seperated from our other half for a couple of months? Thanks in advance...
Queen of Hearts Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Take it SLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOW. That is the best advice I can possibly offer. Separation does NOT = divorced.
Lizzie60 Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I don't think it's too early.. but if I were you.. I wouldn't rush into the 'serious' aspect of the relationship.. just enjoy yourselves.. get to know each other really well before engaging into serious business.
V.Vixen Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Let things roll the way they are and progress naturally. I think putting too much emphasis on what it is and moving too quickly could ruin any potential for it to become something later. take it slow.
rlindzie Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 if you feel like ur ready to jump right back into a relationship than ask her to go to dinner. It is not too soon as far as the 3 lunches go, a dinner date is a good next step. But i would think youd like to have some time for you for a while so if that is the case wait and be friends keep going to casual lunches and when you feel ready as her out good luck
Author cadman Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 how about from her point of view...she told me that she got out of a 3 year relationship 2 months ago and that it was the longest one that she has been in....would most women be ready to date someone in 2 months?
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