Aerorobyn Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Hello all, I'm back to post some more! But now I'm asking myself whether or not I'd really even want my ex back. I do to an extent--but do I fully? Would it be the wisest decision for me to ever get back with him? The dude is just awfully confused, insecure, and immature. I don't even know if he knows what love is. How could he? He broke up with me saying one thing ("It was never about love. I always loved you, and was always in love with you"), and then two weeks later came out saying something else ("I don't believe in true love, soul mates, or any of that"). Not to mention, he also has some serious emotional problems. Seriously. He's had them very badly since about eight months into our relationship. He goes from being sad one minute, to happy, to angry. And his temper...gosh! He gets mad over some of the littlest things (one time he got mad because his father asked him to take some trash out...and my ex ended up smashing his hand through the air conditioner vent in the car and breaking it) This may sound weird, but last night, for the first time since the breakup three weeks ago, I did not have a dream of my ex. Instead, I had a dream of someone else...I don't know who he was, but he was there for me, he was good to me, and I was happy with him. But I'm seriously questioning this now: Would I want him back? How could I ever trust him again after he has already told me he doesn't believe in love, doesn't see a future with me, etc.? Just some things I'm pondering on. Sorry for the lengthiness!
lonelypiscesguy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Why would you want a guy back that has more baggage than an Amtrack train? Are you trying to fix him? You won't. Be good to yourself and listen to your subconscious, that is, your dream. Your heart seems to be crying out for the love you and want and deserve. IMO.
Author Aerorobyn Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 That's the thing. I don't want a guy who is that unstable. He wasn't like that during the first 7-8 months of our relationship, and then he just woke up one morning as a different person. "The love I want and deserve" ...I know the kind of love I want, but I don't foresee that happening. Eh.
lonelypiscesguy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 That's the thing. I don't want a guy who is that unstable. He wasn't like that during the first 7-8 months of our relationship, and then he just woke up one morning as a different person. "The love I want and deserve" ...I know the kind of love I want, but I don't foresee that happening. Eh. C'mon. Do I really have to lecture an intelligent, thoughtful, attractive YOUNG woman such as youself about the fallacy of saying you'll never find the love you want? I'm 42 and I refuse, REFUSE to give up that hope. Life woul seem meaningless without that hope and faith. I know you've probably heard it a thousand times already, but you're young. It just seems bleak now. A woman found me after 26 years of carrying a torch for me, out of the blue! Love does have a way of just finding you sometimes. Wish me luck winning her back...
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Oh my gosh how weird! Ever since I was small I always had a dream of a man in my head. In the dream I am at my lowest. In the dream (unlike in real life) i'm a drug addict, murderer, complete nutter. But this guy is there for me through it, caring me and looking after me. When I started going out with my boyfriend, I stopped dreaming of this mystery man and began dreaming of my boyfriend. When things began going wrong between me and my boyfriend, I stopped dreaming of him and the mystery man came back. Maybe it is your unconscious telling you, this is the kind of love you deserve and should aspire for. It can no longer be found in THIS person, otherwise you wouldn't need the mystery man to replace your ex in the dream. The ex no longer fulfills that role.
lonelypiscesguy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Thank you! I rest my case (smug look on LPG's face)!
Author Aerorobyn Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 pisces- No, no lecture is needed. I've just been told that I'm a lot like my mom in some ways, and I guess to an extent I'm scared that I will turn out like her. We'll see in time though! Good luck winning this girl back! She still carries that torch for you after twenty-six years...how could something positive not come from that? Nikki- Thanks for the reply. I'm glad to know I'm not the only person who has dreams of men that I don't even know! lol! The guy in my dream is the kind of guy (and love) I hope for...but I wonder if he exists? Eh, it's a shame my ex couldn't have been this dream guy.
lonelypiscesguy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I would wish you luck, but you simply don't need it! It is inevitable, IMO. I spent too many years being bitter and regret all that I may have missed out on (no, I don't think you're bitter, just temporarily disillusioned). Then BAM! It just happened! I blew it, but that's another story...I would have laughed at you 8 or 10 years ago if you said that I would be saying all this. But this wonderful girl renewed my faith. Be patient, sweetheart. HE IS out there, and he is wondering the same things you are at this moment in time.
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