music4me Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I went out with a guy (and his friend who was in town visiting, this is the first time we met) last friday night and all day Saturday. We both had a great time! Friday night was great, so he asked me if I would hang out with him all day Saturday (friend came too). I texted him on Saturday night thanking him for everything. He said that we should do dinner and a movie when he gets back and I said that sounds great! Sunday he texted me when he was at the airport saying he had a lot of fun. He was going out of town for 2 weeks. He told me that he would call me. Well its been over a week and I haven't heard from him! I texted him on Thursday just casually asking him how his job training is going and such, and we texted for a bit. I didn't want to over-text him or anything because we aren't exclusive. You think he is just busy with his work or is just not that into me?? Am I expecting too much too soon? To clarify, he lives here in the same town as me, but is just out of town every now and then for the next month for job training.
carhill Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 He said he would call you. You've had text contact with him while he's away. Invite him to call you when he returns. Leave it at that.
EllieBean Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 The guy hasn't called to arrange a date because he's still out of town. You texted each other, he seems interested, so I'd give him until a few days after he gets back.
Chicago_Guy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Some women don't like it if the guy seems eager at first, although you don't seem like that type. Maybe he's afraid you won't like it if he contacts you a lot right away ... or maybe he really isn't that into you. This is why dating can be so hard - you never really know what the other person is thinking right away.
Author music4me Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 I know!! I hate dating. Every relationship I've had started right away... there was no away period or anything. So maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions here? I just thought I would hear from him a bit more than I have been. And being me the one who decided to text him.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Honestly, I think if he were really into you at this point, he'd have called at least once on his trip. But it could be that he's playing it cool. I think it's too early to tell. Personally, though, I would not initiate any more texting or calling.
AngelsFan09 Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Usually, out of town business meetings tend to be hectic unless he has a cushy job. If he's out of town on business, he might actually be busy with work. Wait until he comes back from his business trip before jumping off the deep end. If after he's back in town, still doesn't want to see you.. Then it's a sign. Until then, hold tight.
D-Lish Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 When a guy says he is going to call- don't initiate contact until/unless he does. That includes initiating a text session. If it so happens that he does not follow through with a call, so be it. Because it's so early on- he's probably caught up in having fun on his business trip. When I go on vacation or away on business- I'm not focused much on the things going on back home. Since you've had one "long" date... I wouldn't worry about this. When he gets back, that is when you'll see how serious he is. It might just be bad timing at the moment.
Author music4me Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 thanks for the advice everyone! He's coming home next weekend. Yeah definately I am not planning on texting him anymore, but letting him contact me now. Its just so frustrating cause we had such a great time, and I really like him!! I just casually texted him to see how his week was going... hopefully he will call or text and see how my weekend was. Argh!! I really like him and wish he'd text/call! So frustrating to wait......
era Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Am I expecting too much too soon? Yes. My company has flown me out of town several times, to attend work-related courses. Training can be exhaustive, draining. I wouldn't feel compelled to contact some guy I only just met on the weekend. He does sound interested...so just wait until he returns home, and he is more relaxed.
D-Lish Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 thanks for the advice everyone! He's coming home next weekend. Yeah definately I am not planning on texting him anymore, but letting him contact me now. Its just so frustrating cause we had such a great time, and I really like him!! I just casually texted him to see how his week was going... hopefully he will call or text and see how my weekend was. Argh!! I really like him and wish he'd text/call! So frustrating to wait...... Trust me- wait. DO NOT reach out. A guy like this will respond way better to you if you let him contact you initially. You have to see the evidence- the fact that he is 38, never married, no kids. It's his issue- but if you like him and want to know how to deal with him- spend more time ignoring him than he does you.
era Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 the fact that he is 38, never married, no kids. ???......
era Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Have you read the post at all??????? Gosh, I don't see that on this thread. Please provide the OP's quote.
D-Lish Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Gosh, I don't see that on this thread. Please provide the OP's quote. No- I can't. totally upset and caught up in another situation. My apologies Era. I ranted in the wrong post. Sorry.
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