memphisguy1981 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 What does it mean when a girl tells you that when you hang out, it seems more friendly than dating? I was recently told this by someone I have been dating for the past couple months. We haven't been on a lot of dates due to the fact that we both have very busy schedules, but I felt the dates have gone pretty good. We have good conversation and have fun together. I'm not sure exactly what it is I am doing wrong that makes her feel this way. I don't have a lot of experience dating, so that could be one reason why I can't exactly see things for her perspective. She has become frustrated with me, and I am not sure if she even wants to continue to see me. Is there any way I can turn this situation around? Any help is appreciated.
EYECANDY000 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Maybe it feels more friendly to her because you arent putting any iniatitive to make it seem more like a relationship. Friendship is the first part to a relationship, but if theres no affection being given on both parts then its basiclly a friendship. Try going out more. Im sure its hard to to juggle both scedules but if you want to remain in a relationship with someone then you have to compromise. Just be a little more affectionate, but make sure its sincere and doesnt seem forced. Communication on the phone is great but if you two are in the same city then try seeing her more. even if its for a hour or so. Be spontaneous!
Author memphisguy1981 Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 I have tried to plan more dates, but most of the time it doesn't always fit with her school schedule. Due to my work schedule, I can usually only go out on weekends, but since she also has a very active social life, I'm not always able to see her on weekends. Sometimes I feel like I'm making all the effort planning dates sometimes and wish she could make some time every once in a while so we could see each other. I will try to be more spontaneous, but unfortunately its not one of my strong points.
Author memphisguy1981 Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 Anybody else havve any advice?
carhill Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Yes, imagine your lips are a Hoover vacuum and hers are floor lint Also, touch her back as you guide her through the door. Take her hand and lead her through a crowd. When you do these things, and after, catch her gaze and hold it. Look in her eyes when you talk to her. When you do that, imagine how you want to caress her and make love to her. It's all about signals
rlindzie Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I agree with carhill. The only diffrence between a friend and a lover is the physical. Put the romance in it, touch her, get close to her, look in her eyes, kiss her, do all the things that a lover does. on the other side, i hate to say this but i have been on dates where the convo. was amazing and we even ordered the same meal, but i had no sexual attraction to the guy. I even tried to kiss and see if it was there but nothing. We are not all attracted to everyone we see, so this might be a reason for the comment but if that is the case you can always be friends good luck!
carhill Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I even tried to kiss and see if it was there but nothing. Yes, this can happen for a man too. I can delineate the emotional passion in a kiss from the sexual passion. The general problem for me is that women tend to think that all men who embrace them is such ways want to have sex with them. Mostly, they're right , so I respect that perspective, even though it doesn't apply to me.
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