JackJack Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Hey Tommy, just incase you're still around here....Lizzie is right about the fact that you don't owe that guy anything. He needs to address his wife not you. Even though YOU were part of the equation in this situation. Its his wife that he has a relationship with, so he needs to address her only. I'm not saying you free from what you did, personally karma will catch up with you in another way I'm sure. I'm just saying you owe him nothing.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I doubt the police will laugh at him.. since it's not against the law to scr*w other men's W.. but it is to make physical threats. but if there are no physical threats and he is just contacting him to vent....I would bet they would laugh at his situation, maybe not in his face, but might think to themselves, "little tommy screws another mans wife, and now is reaping what he sewed.....boo hoo".
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 so here is a question for this thread...what if the H came home and caught both of them buck naked and screwing in his bed? What do you think the H ought to do about it then? I'd throw tommy out of my house without his clothes and call the police. then I'd escort my so-called wife out of the house...without her clothes and lock the door.
Lizzie60 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 but if there are no physical threats and he is just contacting him to vent....I would bet they would laugh at his situation, maybe not in his face, but might think to themselves, "little tommy screws another mans wife, and now is reaping what he sewed.....boo hoo". and maybe they won't..
Dexter Morgan Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I still think the husband needs to drop the b!tch off on tommy's doorstep and tell her, "let him take care of you"
Lizzie60 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I still think the husband needs to drop the b!tch off on tommy's doorstep and tell her, "let him take care of you" Yeah.. that could be a good plan.. as long as he's not violent with neither of them..
mr.dream merchant Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 No need to be violent the husband just needs to let Tommy take care of the garbage from now on and find himself a nice lady to commit to. It sounds dumb as hell but I'd be calling Tommy thanking him for showing me my Wife's true character. Then I'd probably bond with him on what a nasty bitch my Wife is in the sac then end it on a good note, let Tommy know the skank is all his and be about my business.
tommyhigher2 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 It's me again as I forgot my password so I had to log in again sucks. Just to update I was pretty dumbfounded, rather shocked that it was really she the one who told her husband what we did (since we never left any evidence so the husband would have never really found out). That explains how he also knew my phone number as well as cell phone. I mean it was suppost to be our secret and the fact that I though she care about me, well at least have deep emotions for me as she kept telling me how she wanted to divorce her husband so badly that he was mean, lazy and gets drunk too much. Why did she told him anyways, I don't get that. I mean if I was in a relationship and cheating on a girlfriend or wife, I wouldn't really tell or at least if I wanted to confess so badly then I only say that they deserve better that I done some stuff I'm not proud off and walk away, leave it at that. Yes he has on me on my cell too, same angry tone. Now I usually hang up but just yesterday I was like ''Ok want do you want, will you stop calling me already I really don't know you''. And his answer ''You're the mother****er my wife told me all about, you screwed her didn't you, she told me everything without me having to find out myself, you ruined everything'' I just told him to stop calling else I would call the cops right now that I really have nothing to talk about and I was like ''Oh sorry to hear about your wife but that's between you and her to solve, now will you leave me alone because if you don't I will report you''. I think he got the message after that as it ended by him telling me he's on his way of divorcing her, that he wants nothing to do with her but that he will always hate me. To him I will always be considered low-lowered and that if he ever saw me (no he doesn't know what I looked like anyways) then he'll lose it. Ok gonna read all your replies now and I'll answered back, I'm gonna take my time. I still don't get why she told him all about it, guilt??
tommyhigher2 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 You shouldn't have slept with his wife. If he is reading though I would tell him that a cheating witch is not worth throwing away your freedom over. Leave this guy alone and divorce your wife so you can live a happy life. am trying to helpout the OP. Well as him as him he wants nothing to do with his wife but a divorce. Now I never had intercourse with her, oral sex and fooling around is not sex. Maybe they are physical threats.. Tommy can say that they were.. I doubt the police will laugh at him.. since it's not against the law to scr*w other men's W.. but it is to make physical threats. Plus, I should add. that most (if not all) policemen are cheaters... so they would take Tommy's side.. Tommy.. report him! He has been warned as to speak of. Last call was yesterday and none today. If he calls again no doubt about that, I will report him. You're right I don't own him anything.
tommyhigher2 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 LOL...he's a college kid - how good could the oral sex have BEEN for this married woman to take that kind of risk? I can't imagine it was worth it for her. Michelle I didn't think she would tell her husband, in fact I was starting to become so infatuated with her. Sometimes I would be telling her my darkest secret but guess she fed me with BS, I though she cared about me.
tommyhigher2 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 How would you feel if someone messed around with your wife in the future? wouldn't like it to well I would imagine. I never been in that position so I can't tell but my guess is that it I would want to find out who he is. Ok I don't blame the soon to be ex husband, who hates me so much. Now I been in 3 relationships but never cheated nor been cheated on and with my ex OW that's the only I done this. I guess what I felt was different than my relationships, I felt freed from rules and I didn't have to worry too much about hurting her over meaningless stuff nor jealousy issues (that's one reason I broke with my ex's, I don't like jealous girls that put too much rules).
Dexter Morgan Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Well as him as him he wants nothing to do with his wife but a divorce. Now I never had intercourse with her, oral sex and fooling around is not sex. It is still betrayal and messing around with a married woman. But hey, say whatever makes you feel better. But then again, i doubt you have any remorse anyway:o
Dexter Morgan Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I never been in that position well hopefully some day you will be. Ok I don't blame the soon to be ex husband Is he divorcing her? Did he tell you this? Or did she? If so and he is getting rid of her....WONDERFUL!!! She deserves to be kicked out of the house.
JackJack Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 tommy, dude, you'll continue to get raked for your actions on here..it might be best to just get on with your life. Learn from the mistake you made, don't do again, and move on.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Learn from the mistake you made, don't do again, and move on. Oh he'll do it again. I highly doubt he cares if he is sleeping with someones wife, just as long as he gets to boink them.
JackJack Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Oh he'll do it again. I highly doubt he cares if he is sleeping with someones wife, just as long as he gets to boink them. Yes, you're right, there is that chance he will do it again...but there is that chance he wont do it again either.
Lizzie60 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 and if he does it again.. there is a chance he will fall on a woman who will prefer the 'secrecy'...
Dexter Morgan Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 and if he does it again.. there is a chance he will fall on a woman who will prefer the 'secrecy'... yup, there is that chance he'll find such a worthless excuse for a woman;)
boldjack Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Lizz, be careful what you say, MY son is a policeman and he hasn't cheated.
Groovy Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Originally Posted by tommyhigher2 Well as him as him he wants nothing to do with his wife but a divorce. Now I never had intercourse with her, oral sex and fooling around is not sex Ha, ha.....that will go over great. "Hey, I didn't stick my dick in her, just my flickering tongue was between her legs". I'm sure everything will be fine in that case. Anyway, I guess enough people have given him a difficult time.
Bluebird In My Heart Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 ...I guess what I felt was different than my relationships, I felt freed from rules and I didn't have to worry too much about hurting her over meaningless stuff nor jealousy issues (that's one reason I broke with my ex's, I don't like jealous girls that put too much rules). Mmmm...well, darling -- guess there's a whole sh*tload of "married woman" issues you're aware of now. Ain't enlightment grand?
Lostchances Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Tommy owes the BH nothing? I don’t think so. Consider this: There is a thing called, for the lack of a better word, a social contract. Liberal democrats eat this sort of thing up, actually. It takes a village kind of thing they love to politicize. Anyway, Tommy owed the BH common courtesy. Tommy owed the BH a nominal and social level of truth, honesty, care and respect. (If everyone acted like Tommy society as we know it would break down.) Tommy owed the BH the same consideration and respect we owe Tommy. Or we used to owe him. I think Tommy has forfeited forever all right to social consideration, trust and respect of any kind. Tommy owed the BH not to stab him in the back like he did, regardless of what the guy’s wife wanted. So, at the very least, Tommy owes the BH an apology for not fulfilling the normal minimum social obligations we all carry. In fact, he owes it to the BH to take the cheating wife off his hands. He sort of bought and paid for her, you know. He owes this consideration to her at the very least. He should step up to these new obligations like a man. Or like whatever he is.
2sure Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 OK - Ive been staying away from this because I happen to know someone who was very recently caught up in the same thing....but now i know you arent the same people. MW had an affair w/ a college guy (19). H found out. Furious, and looking for blood - calls the OM. OM, just a kid, is scared, sounds scared. Tells H : OMG! She said she was separated/getting divorced..I feel so used, I cant believe I have done this. H ended up feeling like OM was just as much a victim as himself. So, there ya go.
BladeRunner Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 A somewhat similar scenario is played out in the movie Unfaithful with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. The most probable outcome is a nonviolent one, but I definitely would not meet with him. She did say that he had a tendency to be mean and drunk.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 A somewhat similar scenario is played out in the movie Unfaithful with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. The most probable outcome is a nonviolent one, but I definitely would not meet with him. She did say that he had a tendency to be mean and drunk. Good movie. My favorite line in the movie when he was talking to his wife..."I didn't want to kill him...I wanted to kill you!";)
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