prettybaby Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I think I would kind of hate being proposed to on a plane. Especially since I'm generally dressed down in sweat pants, practically no makeup, hair plain, and basically feeling unsexy. Plus, it's crowded, extremely unromantic, and way too unexpected if she's leaving with her friend thinking she'll enjoy some time off with her. I don't know. Hmff. I guess you know your girlfriend best. Maybe she'll like it.
openbook08 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 On the return flight from trip with friend maybe? I do like the taking friends seat idea. It would be after a break of not seeing you, could make it that much better? :love:i abosofrickinlutely love this idea!! esp as it has sentimental meaning for you both. except i would go with danb on the return flight idea, if my boyf. proposed like this i wouldnt want him to disappear back home, id wanna spend the weekend with him. if you still wanna go with your original plan, then i still stand by the wanting to be together afterwards so maybe you can arrange with the friend an immediate return flight for her (shed have to be a really understanding friend!!) or arrange that her boyf or another friend be on the flight also so shes not left like a spare tool after the proposal cant wait to hear all about it
Meaplus3 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 What a cool idea.. how cute. You could have one of the flight attendants come by with the drinks. Have your GF order her fav.. and then find the ring in the drink. Just a thought. Have fun with this and good luck to you. I hope she says YES! Mea:)
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 First of all Cherished, you are SOOOOOO romantic LOL. Chill. Besides it is the pilot, co pilot who really make sure everyone is safe. All announcements in this regard come from them first, and then that is reiterated by the flight attendants. I usually sit up front on flights, and on longer ones, the attendants will often be reading for a part of the time. Also this is Southwest which has been "my" airline for four years, so you can sit anywhere, and change seats with anyone, if both people agree. Now onto the OP. Since Southwest has been my airline, I do have some suggestions. Have your g/f and her friend get in line first, and instruct her friend to have them sit in the back of the plane. (Usually not desireable, but, in this case you don't want her to see you.) Can the best friend pull off being super paranoid about being early? Maybe she can say it is supposed to be safer in back or something, lol. You should still be in line, but further down as you will want as close as pssible to the front of the plane, Which are the hottest seats on the plane The first row would be best, preferably on the left, so you may be able to chat with the attenant while you are taking off, but those might be taken up by families or people with disabilities. As soon as the attendant comes to you to give you your peanuts or whatever, let her know your plan. Get any ideas she has on timing .. Since you upfront you should be able to get your drinks pretty quickly. Then at the right time I think you should go back to your fiancee with the ring and drinks. (wine, lol) Luckily since you are up front at this point, eeryone will be going the other way than you for the lavatory. Wear a coat, whatever with a pocket, so your ring will be really secure. Then go back. (Hopefully try to have the best friend have your g/f on the aisle,). You go back say hi and ask her friend "can I take your seat for a sec and you can have mine ". (Then give her the specifics of course!) If your g/f asks what is up, just smile. . Then after her friend leaves say something like "we have gone the distance together .............. (throw in whatever compliments you have here) Let's take flight together for life" Then the big reveal of the ring. Cheesy as all get out, yes, but she will most likely love it. I think this plan is good because it is romantic, but still has the least involvement of other people. Also let her decide whether she wants you to stay on the trip or not. Unless her friennd is going through some trauma, she will probably want you to stay. Let her friend know beforehand the whole plan. Do you have a way to contact the friend without your g/f becoming suspiscious that something may be happening? (and I actually mean something bad.) Maybe the best friend could loan her a good book too, so the g/f will be so immersed in it, she won't see you coming, lol. Ok, I'm too corny for my own good, and I probably went into too much detail, but I wish you luck. Update us!
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 What a cool idea.. how cute. You could have one of the flight attendants come by with the drinks. Have your GF order her fav.. and then find the ring in the drink. Just a thought. Have fun with this and good luck to you. I hope she says YES! Mea:) Yes, but she may choke on it, lol. Not good.
Meaplus3 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Yes, but she may choke on it, lol. Not good. LOl..I had not really thought about that. Ummm.. scratch my idea here OP. But still I wish you the best of luck. Mea:)
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I just think it would be rude to put the other people on the flight through that crap of asking them to switch seats, etc. sorry, that would be annoying. I personally would be pissed if you just popped up to do your thing, etc. when there is a flight going on. Then you haven't even thought of the issue of your girlfriend is going on a trip with her best friend. You get on that flight and suddenly it's not a best friend/girlfriend trip, it's an "I just got engaged" trip and maybe your girlfriend just wants a trip with her best friend. I mean she PLANNED this trip with her friend, can she just have a girlfriend's trip without you involved? Or is it truly that you don't trust your, or are jealous that she is taking a trip without you? I don't get why you are intent on changing her trip plans and why the engagement can't wait. On top of that, planes are kind of gross and public when you think about it. What? This is really, really over the top. I think him just taking the friend's seat solves any awkwardness of asking a stranger to move. (Since I can't walk, even though I'm a romantic, and would love to help, once I'm in an airplane seat i'm not moving, lol. Thus I appreciate this particular concern. ) The other stuff you are saying is just way, way over the top, and just weird.
missdependant Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Also, maybe you can call Southwest and see if they do anything to help if you pay them a little bit extra??? IDK how it all works, but this is pretty cute, dude.
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 LOl..I had not really thought about that. Ummm.. scratch my idea here OP. But still I wish you the best of luck. Mea:) I actually had a friend this happened too, lol. I like my bloddy mary's on planes, and they tend to come with ALOT of ice, so I wouln't be able to tell what else was in there. BTW, OP. Have her best friend take pics after you land. I do agree with Cherished that you don't want to uproot another passanger in this proposal. Maybe you could reenact it in her new seat, so she isn't going against the crowd, coming back to your guys. Also remember to bring any bags she has up to her, lol.
carhill Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 The only way I'd do the ring in a glass deal would be in international F-class and with a glass of real champagne (not sparkling wine). No mistaking the sparkler in the bubbles OP, just cook something up with her friend. Women are suckers for that kind of drama. Who knows? Maybe many of the faces on that plane will seem eerily familiar
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Also, maybe you can call Southwest and see if they do anything to help if you pay them a little bit extra??? IDK how it all works, but this is pretty cute, dude. Southwest is good with value, but is really no frills, lol. Depending on the flight length the OP may want to get some lunch or dinner he knows she would really like. (Or even her favorite candy bar or something. Unfortunately I don't think you can drink non plane alcohol on the plane, but the OP might want to check.
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 The only way I'd do the ring in a glass deal would be in international F-class and with a glass of real champagne (not sparkling wine). No mistaking the sparkler in the bubbles OP, just cook something up with her friend. Women are suckers for that kind of drama. Who knows? Maybe many of the faces on that plane will seem eerily familiar LOL. I hear you. Southwest not so first class. Though unlike United, I don't usually come out of it with a damaged wheelchair. A good thing:) Yes, the friend will be all over it. Hey, I don't know the woman and you saw the detailed description I gave, lol.
carhill Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Unfortunately I don't think you can drink non plane alcohol on the plane, but the OP might want to check. I don't think FAR Part 91 prohibits consuming alcohol brought on-board, but most airlines have regulations requiring flight attendants to serve and monitor alcohol consumption. Part 91.17 covers their responsibilities regarding transporting passengers who are determined to be intoxicated. I've seen on-board confrontations and police remove people for intoxication so it's serious stuff. Not applicable here, but the rules are in place, so, generally, no BYOB...
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I don't think FAR Part 91 prohibits consuming alcohol brought on-board, but most airlines have regulations requiring flight attendants to serve and monitor alcohol consumption. Part 91.17 covers their responsibilities regarding transporting passengers who are determined to be intoxicated. I've seen on-board confrontations and police remove people for intoxication so it's serious stuff. Not applicable here, but the rules are in place, so, generally, no BYOB... That makes sense.
The Collector Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Somedude, you are 1000% sure she will say yes, are you a 1000% sure she will like this idea? Generally I think men sometimes go for these wacky 'original' proposal ideas, when most women would prefer something more simple and traditional. Also, women like to tell all their friends how it happened. If her friends think it's a tacky idea she may wish you'd done it differently. You'll be sitting right next to some stranger, will she feel comfortable reacting with the appropriate joy if some sweaty weirdo is eavesdropping on the whole thing? In a normal scenario you'd be with her before asking, and can gauge her mood. With your plan she could be in a bad frame of mind if there are any problems with the flight, other passengers, etc. She's not 'warmed up' and could be thrown by your sudden appearance, and not in a good way. I just think planes aren't sexy or romantic. It just seems weird to me. Best case scenario - she loves the crazy idea. Worst case scenario - she doesn't and for the rest of your marriage she wishes you'd asked her when she was more receptive and you regret it for, well, ever. But I think you're going to do it anyway, so good luck and let us know how it goes.
prettybaby Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 ^^ I completely agree. Definitely not something I'd like. I'd personally need a quiet, cozy, romantic setting with a little bit of privacy. Heck, even a walk in a quiet park during or after sunset would be lovely. I mean, in a plane, you're basically sitting with a bunch of strangers right up your butt. Talk about uncomfortable.
bean1 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Maybe I missed it (I sort of skimmed the thread), but I'm wondering how you are going to get through security with her AND the ring - without her knowing? Anyways, no need to bark on the guy for his idea - I would think that she would be very happy that he is indeed proposing to her and put thought into it. Ok, so it's not YOUR idea of a romantic proposal, doesn't make it wrong. I'm sure she'd appreciate the thought he is putting into it (perhaps that is the sign of a girl who deserves an engagement ring)
prettybaby Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I'm sure she'd appreciate the thought he is putting into it (perhaps that is the sign of a girl who deserves an engagement ring) So you're basically saying that those who pointed out the fact that it may not be the best idea out there don't deserve to be engaged? Please
carhill Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I mean, in a plane, you're basically sitting with a bunch of strangers right up your butt. Talk about uncomfortable. That's definitely one perspective of what a plane is. But is it the prospective betrothed's perspective? Unknown...
bean1 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 So you're basically saying that those who pointed out the fact that it may not be the best idea out there don't deserve to be engaged? Please There's a difference between saying it "isn't the best idea" and other certain posters making it out like he is rude, selfish, inconsiderate, etc. for just wanting to do his idea of romantic.
sfsassy Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 There's a difference between saying it "isn't the best idea" and other certain posters making it out like he is rude, selfish, inconsiderate, etc. for just wanting to do his idea of romantic. Exactly. Hey, a plane proposal wouldn't be my cup of tea either and I can see several pitfalls where it could go wrong, but obviously it has meaning probably to both of them. However it was implied that he was a pig who cared nothing for her feelings, and that it was all about him, which I don't think is the case at all. I would be more worried about the execution of the plan as opposed to the intent, lol.
Cherished Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I'm willing to bet that the airline staff will not accommodate you on this plan. It's not a 4-star restaurant where the staff are in a position to accommodate and wouldn't be distracted by the customer's need for safety. And I do agree with collector & pretty baby about the romantic part. I never said he was a pig, but i do believe there is a bit of jealousy there that she is going on a weekend trip with her friend, not including him, so he does have to make it about him. I know he's leaving supposedly but...still...can't shake this feeling.
Ocean-Blue Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I'm willing to bet that the airline staff will not accommodate you on this plan. It's not a 4-star restaurant where the staff are in a position to accommodate and wouldn't be distracted by the customer's need for safety. And I do agree with collector & pretty baby about the romantic part. I never said he was a pig, but i do believe there is a bit of jealousy there that she is going on a weekend trip with her friend, not including him, so he does have to make it about him. I know he's leaving supposedly but...still...can't shake this feeling. Where are you getting the jealousy bit from?
Lionblade Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I'm willing to bet that the airline staff will not accommodate you on this plan. It's not a 4-star restaurant where the staff are in a position to accommodate and wouldn't be distracted by the customer's need for safety. And I do agree with collector & pretty baby about the romantic part. I never said he was a pig, but i do believe there is a bit of jealousy there that she is going on a weekend trip with her friend, not including him, so he does have to make it about him. I know he's leaving supposedly but...still...can't shake this feeling. One look at your posts in this thread and you're either the best friend who feels like he's intrusive or the wife who doesn't like this idea because you're taking this so personal it's kind of laughable. No need to repeat the same things over and over; we get it, you don't like the idea. As for flight concerns, if the pilots and flight attendants are fine with it then who are you to say it's such a big risk for other people's safety? I've changed seats with others many times when flying; it's no big deal.
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