exclusive. Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Well... I never thought I'd see this day, as Im sure many of you looking to post on here don't think they will see either. It has been a couple of months now since the day my ex told me she didn't love me anymore, therefore, not a single chance of reconciliation. A couple of months since I've seen her and a couple of months since I had any sort of contact. It hurt a lot, I cannot lie. I even contacted her a couple of times myself, without a reply. But now, I do not care. I got myself a new job and met some nice new girls I hope to become friends with and hopefully more, seeing as one of them is very cute. I am going out regularly with mates, committed to a football team that is full of laughter (soccer to the Americans) ha. My ex has escaped my dreams, escaped my thoughts and escaped my pain. Its over, the end. However, it is not 'the end' but a beginning! Never give up hope everyone, please - I beg of this! Even I at one point felt like possibly doing something stupid/taking my life.....but we are all better than our ex's and they will be ours ex's because someone better is out there for us to meet. If anyone needs a chat, let me know! Elliott.
Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Good my friend. Glad you are happy. Judging by your avatar pic, you are a really good looking dude (I say this in a straight way. I like the females). So you are ahead of the game brother, be greatful
crisla Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Good for you. I was doing well until TODAY (read my post). Well... I had to start all over again. I'm sure I can do it. I just need to let it all out today before I meet him at work tonight. I hope I'm doing fine.
Author exclusive. Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 cheers pal, I just hope no one ever opts to do anything stupid to themselves. There is always light after the tunnel! and even the darkest of clouds have silver linings!
LostFocus Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Good to hear the good news. Keep playing soccer. Soccer is the best.
EmperorR Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 These stories are always good, after a while the cravings of contact always dissappear.
sparklemama Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Congrats! Can't wait to be at that point for me everything is so fresh(3 days ago) I also have a daughter with him so its pretty complicated.
huck Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 happy to hear everythings cool with you now. Its interesting to see how people are doing that joined the forum around the same time as me. Cant wait for the day im in the same position as you... Agree with your comment about doing something stupid.. No ones worth that - however much you loved them..
lost85 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I can't wait until I reach that point in my recovery! Me ex and I broke up in Oct last year and it was horrible for me. After the begging and crying, he told me to leave him alone and I did for a month and then I caved and contacted him again to be "friends". I thought if we could be friends he would one day come back to me. Everything was okay and slowly he began to contact me more and more and he even took me out for my birthday. He was flirting with me alot and then a couple days later we hooked up. We had a good discussion about our break up and he revealed that he's not ready to go out with me (I'm 22, he's 19) and that I don't fit into his lifestyle anymore. He's into the clubbing and drinking scene. After we hooked up a month ago, he has not contacted me AT ALL. He said he does care about me and that he's just giving me space to get over it, but I think its bull****. He just doesnt want to deal with me anymore. It's over for him. And I should move on too. If he does'nt want to be friends, then why should I bother? Its been 3 weeks NC and I'm struggling everyday, but I REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY ONE DAY! I really hope it happens soon. I want to be free of the memories and the pain of wanting someone who does'nt think its worthwhile being with you. Well done Elliott!! You're really lucky. With time, I hope I can get to the same place where I'm totally over it.
Author exclusive. Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 Just keep going, I promise it will. Go through the stages however, you feel you need to just DON'T contact him. Trust me, one day you will wake up and think I'm happy. I joined a gym and go 4 times a week, joined sports teams, went out with friends most opportunities, got a new job as my placement made me redundant so a nice waiting job until I go back to university where I have met new people. It's all about starting your life again, being busy and having loads to do without any of it referring to anyone else! If you need to talk sometime, then just say hello.
LoveUrselfFirst Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Elliott I am so happy for you. See...things work out in your favor and just by what you wrote, seems to me that you are happy. Big hugs!!!!!!
Author exclusive. Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Quick Update; I got a Blocked phone call last night at 2am, I answered and said hello ....twice. No answer. The only idiot who I knew did this when she was drunk was my ex, often to hear my voice cause she missed me. Well if its her after so long - pathetic! After all this time, perhaps it is me who has really gone further in life and grown up more. Definitely a positive for everyone else out there.
Miguelrg Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Hey people,this is my first post on this, My ex broke up with me about 6 weeks ago, only she had me fly to australia to start a life with her, a week before she had signed a lease on a new flat, and 2 weeks before she had told her family she wanted to marry me, in the last 2 weeks we argued and when i got there she claimed things had changed and she didn't feel the same. I find out this week she's been hookin up with a 19 year old for fun ( not off her) i'm 22 she's 25, so anyhow today i initiated NC after getting money transferred over here to the uk. Sad but i had to sit around for 3 weeks after the breakup miserable by myself. I too had 2 phone calls withheld and no-one speaking on sunday 3am - 1pm Australian time so i don't know if it was her, i also got the first email reply in 2 weeks the monday, the day after she had this guy round to OUR flat. Anyhow any words of advice with NC would help, i know it's sad wanting her back but ye, i just hope she regrets it, we lived together for 10 months in Australia and 2 months in Liverpool u.k Thanks, sorry for long reply
openbook08 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 It's all about starting your life again, being busy and having loads to do without any of it referring to anyone else! got that right uh-huh!! who knew life could be so much fun without them:laugh: happy for you elliott X ps am i the only one reading your name like el-li-ott?? a la ET??hee hee sorry i love the name elliott im just in silly mode today! MIGUELRG: its tough, see the quote i posted from exclusive and take heed. also keep posting its a great help. hang in there X
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