nature Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 OK, this is the weirdest thing. Some of you know i"ve been on here because of my breakup with my fiance last summer & devastated over him. Well now today, I get this email from my ex of 4 yrs ago. It doesn't say anything, he just sent me photos of his new dog. About 10 photos in all. It's a cute dog, but what does this mean? I was the one who broke up with him after a tumultous 2.5 yr relationship because he was wanting to move in together and pressuring me. I wasn't ready I guess. I just don't get what these photos mean? How do I take this?
Author nature Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Can one of you guys help me to understand this? I don't know what I'm supposed to do? Just look at the photos and delete them, or is he wanting me to write him back and say, looks like you just got a new puppy? WTF? Why did he send these to me?
Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Sounds like a non aggressive move on his behalf. Quite smart actually. I may think of this when considering talking to some of my ex's someday lol. I don't know honestly how to take it though. For all we know, it could be by accident. It sounds pretty light hearted though so I wouldn't take it too harshly.
foxh1234 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I would just email back and say nice puppy. He might have been just thinking of you and decided to send the pics. I wouldn't read anything into it.
Author nature Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Thanks Thomas! lol Is it a good move? It definitely has started me thinking about him again, I must admit. I'm not taking it harshly at all. It's just that we really haven't had much contact over the yrs. I have felt bad about ending it with him because he was a good person. It was just bad timing. I'm just wonding if I should reply. Because as you said, it could be in error. But at the same time, he's never made an error before and sent me an email. I'm surprised he still has my email. Could it be that he's trying to get in touch but doesn't want to set himself up for failure by sending a "hi how are you" email, so he sent me these just to see if I'd respond? Gawd, yes Thomas, I guess it is a good move! lol
Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I'm always happy to help. You should respond by sending some pictures of dogs you think are cute on google or something. Or tell him "Hello how are you".
Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 So, Did you end up writing him back? I would write back, say hi, the puppy is cute..hope you are doing well.
EllieBean Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I think it's more likely that he sent the photos to you by mistake - my email program auto-completes email addresses when I type the first letter of the person's name, and I make mistakes sometimes too. I'd just reply saying hi, nice to hear from you, was wondering if you sent these photos by mistake... cute puppy, hope you're doing ok. Leave it at that, and see if he responds.
Author nature Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 No I haven't written him back! Don't know if I feel like even opening that can of worms again. Whether he sent the pictures by mistake or not. If I respond, then he'll prob feel obliged to respond, and so on. lol He was really angry at me when our relationship ended. (another one who was angry at me. lol) Why are relationships so damn complicated? Why can't it just be like in fairytales...you meet someone, fall in love, and both work together to keep it together...none of this "we fight too much, we don't want the same things, don't know if I'm ready for a commitment, etc". I'm to blame for this attitude as much as the next person. As I didn't want to move in with this ex from 4 yrs ago. But then I wanted to move in with the most recent ex, as we were engaged, but then he decided to have a mid life crisis and turn 19. I've often thought it was my payback for hurting the ex before him. Karma I guess.
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