smile_through_tears Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Hey Tom, Im sorry to hear she did that...Honestly, do you think she is saying the truth about being really busy?? I dont understand this girl..why would she cry and do all the things she recently did if she doesnt want to be with you?? :confused: Talk about a CONFUSED chick!! lol
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 She isnt kidding about being that busy. I knew for a long time in advance how busy she would be... and she ended up being more busy than I even anticipated. It's no joke or lie on her behalf... and to make it all worse, another thing is being added ontop of it all. Her brother is having a kid very soon. She lost a few friends from having no time. I guess I was just a casualty. I'll tell you something that will make you cry. When I asked why we couldn't make it work, she said family has to come first. She only has time for one. I told her the worst part is that I WAS her family. That was the last thing I'll say to her.
EmperorR Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 It's alright my friends. The pain won't hit me for another 2 weeks. Nothing to worry about right now. And don't worry nature I ran it all through my head too. Every step of the way, I knew every outcome possible and did my best to prepare myself for it. I txt her this morning and she said she doesn't know if she can go on vacation. I wasn't surprised, I already knew this outcome was probable. So then I said "next you'll say you can't hang out next week" And she said "yeah about that my cousin is coming up next weekend I THINK, so if she does, I cant hang out" I was a bit surprised at THAT point, but still wasn't really all that shocked. I told her to cut the BS and just tell me if she changed her mind about this all or not. She said she wants to see me and stuff but she doesn't know if we can date still because of how busy she is. I said bs. At this point, I knew I should've listened to everyone. Hell, everyone said she was out of her element dating me and I should be with a hell of a lot better looking girl... even though my ex was pretty. She had a pretty face anyways. But thinking about how so many people said that, really helped right now. For NOW though. The pain never does start for a week or two. I told her its cool, do what you want. Then I told her "I'll let how much you're going to miss me, speak for itself". Then she just said some more bs saying how she wants to see me and I was like "yeah definitely" sarcastically. Just kept blowing her off. Too many girls out there to be pulled into such mind games. F it. That's teh thing it has nothing to do with looks, my ex fiance looked like a model sh*t stung, this ex was a little chubby, average at best and it still stung, its how you feel about the person, you can always get someone more preety, more skinny, bigger boobs etc., but the special moments and emotions you shared ah:(
EmperorR Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 She isnt kidding about being that busy. I knew for a long time in advance how busy she would be... and she ended up being more busy than I even anticipated. It's no joke or lie on her behalf... and to make it all worse, another thing is being added ontop of it all. Her brother is having a kid very soon. She lost a few friends from having no time. I guess I was just a casualty. I'll tell you something that will make you cry. When I asked why we couldn't make it work, she said family has to come first. She only has time for one. I told her the worst part is that I WAS her family. That was the last thing I'll say to her. I know how it is, before to this girl I was her family, "when I talk about family I mean you to", when she dumped me, I want to spend more time with my friends and my family Women
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 Yes , emporer. You and me are brothers
nature Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 I'm sorry you're hurt. I don't buy the busy line. Sorry. I understand she might be terribly busy, but even rocket scientists and brain surgeon's have time for relationships and family. It's called figuring out your priorities (and that includes the people in your life) and putting them first. Yes, if in a relationship with her, you are family. If she doesn't think of you as important as her family, then she doesn't deserve you. She probably loves you to a degree, but if she can live without you, then she is not the woman for you. Never make someone a priority, who sees you as an option. Grrrrrrrrr she makes me mad. So mad. She has a great guy in love with her and she's totally taking it for granted. One day she will regret this. I promise you. As a woman, I can tell you, there are not many true, blue, great guys out there anymore. Not many that are noble and loyal and committed. She will regret this one day, once she realizes you truly are gone. She's a dummy, is all I can say.
ThatCaliLover Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Hey Thomas, I dont know your whole situation, but i've read this whole thread and get the gist of what's going on right now, and I'm going through sort of the same thing, to a lesser degree. It's just not worth going through all the heartache, the constant ups and downs, hoping with all your heart and convincing yourself it's going to work, and then realizing it can't, over and over. I too was getting the "i'm busy but I really miss you and want to see you" line, followed by more and more flaking. I think, in the back of my mind I knew all along it was a sham, but when you're in love you can't help but hope to be wrong. Sigh... just got a text from the girl putting me through this.
ThatCaliLover Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 You know what Tom? You spend far too much time talking about how good looking you are- about how your ex was a model... but the girl you dated after was just "average" pretty. Whatever. You're young and stupid. Are you 19? That's the impression I have. You've studied psychology, great. You don't post like you are established, you post like you are a self-righteous ass-hole. hey....u mad?
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Hey Thomas, i'm really sorry to hear that it didn't work out. I think when you give it another shot and it doesn't work, at least you know you tried. People will advise against second chances but I think then at least you know that it cut and dried CAN'T work. It didn't work once, it won't work twice. At least you know that know. Still I'm sorry for you. My second chance isn't working out so great either. I'm not feeling half so strong though.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 Hmm mizzunderstood. You have to let go of that bitterness my friend, it will eat you alive. For your own sake and those close to you (especially relationships), you must get rid of that. I do have some degree of arrogance though, I can't deny that. It's not overbearring though. I still care about others more than me. Nature your post means a lot to me. Thank you very much for saying that. You clearly are an intelligent girl and you have a lot to offer. I am just as angry at YOUR ex for being able to leave you. He must truly be a blind idiot to not see how great of a girl he had. SERIOUSLY. There aren't girls like you around here. There just aren't. As for you cali, my brother, I am sorry that you have to go through the same thing that I am. I truly give you ALL the sympathy and empathy that I can spare at this point, because no doubt it's hell for you too. Are you ignoring her? If you could, could you send an instant message on AIM to "Not ThomasX" ? Nikki I'd like to talk to you too if you could IM me.
thelastsong Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 Hey Thomas, I've read through your story and these topics, and regardless of the current news you have just received, it's really motivated me and I thought I'd sign up and thank you for sharing them. I was basically put through the same ordeal. After she called it off, I basically went on and off with NC and just didn't care to make time for her. I guess this surprised her and so I managed to get a second chance. I'd put my life at stake for this girl...but one day she just had a major change of attitude, which was this past summer, and it has never been the same since. I've gone on and off with NC thinking I can make it work at times, but it hasn't fallen through. I have seen her once since then and it did not go as I intended at all. She is the one that has been initiating contact through all this time, and has kept in touch fairly often with mixed signals, but now I'm going to go strict NC because I've been pushed back so many times. Thanks again...hopefully our situations work out in the end...
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 Welcome, the last song. You should IM me too and we can talk more there privately. Not ThomasX
openbook08 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 is all i can say "i want you,i dont want you,i miss you,not that much,im not sure" danced this particular jig for waaaay too long learn from my mistakes hang in there XX to all the half arsed exes
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 lol openbook i feel that. IM me openbook too. i havent talked to you in forever. wanst able to reply to that last email. so toss me an IM.
openbook08 Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 my current theme song : I wake up every evening With a big smile on my face And it never feels out of place. And you're still probably working At a 9 to 5 pace I wonder how bad that tastes When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell Now where's your picket fence love And where's that shiny car Did it ever get you far? You never seem so tense, love Never seen you fall so hard Do you know where you are? Truth be told I miss you Truth be told I'm lying When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell If you find a man thats worth the damn and treats you well Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell Hope it gives you hell [Gives You Hell Lyrics On http://www.elyricsworld.com/ ] Tomorrow you'll be thinking to yourself Where did it all go wrong? But the list goes on and on Truth be told I miss you Truth be told I'm lying When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell If you find a man that's worth the damn and treats you well Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell Now you'll never see What you've done to me You can take back your memories They're no good to me And here's all your lies If you look me in the eyes With the sad, sad look That you wear so well When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell If you find a man that's worth the damn and treats you well Then he's a fool you're just as well hope it gives you hell When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell (hope it gives you hell) When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell (hope it gives you hell) When you hear this song and you sing along well you'll never tell And you're the fool I've just as well I hope it gives you hell When you hear this song I hope that it will give you hell You can sing along I hope that it puts you through hell All American Rejects. i will IM you soon as i figure out how the hell to IM you!! keep moving forward.
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 Hey Thomas. Send me a private message! I don't have AIM but have hotmail.
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