Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Who didn't see this coming? Hell, I saw it coming before I even hung out with her that day. I was hesitant to post that topic but posted it because I figured it would give someone hope. Or maybe to fool myself. Of course, things have fallen through though. No amount of psychology or good will or kindness, good looks or personality could beat the rules. There are no happy endings with the ones you break up with. Always no contact. But still, don't let it stop you from trying.
EmperorR Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Damn sorry man I guess its true, second chances barely ever work.
nature Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Thomas...I'm sorry. I was leary when I read through your last post about there being happy endings. That is why I didn't post to it. When I read it I thought, oh no........this girl is waffling, and even tho she cried and says she's missed you, there was nothing concrete in it. Even in her saying that you'll see each other again soon. Usually when you love someone and have missed them, you just start making plans right away...there is no stalling...sorry. What happened??
EllieBean Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Aww Thomas It's only a couple of days since you posted that you were back together! What happened? I thought you'd booked a vacation together in June?
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 It's alright my friends. The pain won't hit me for another 2 weeks. Nothing to worry about right now. And don't worry nature I ran it all through my head too. Every step of the way, I knew every outcome possible and did my best to prepare myself for it. I txt her this morning and she said she doesn't know if she can go on vacation. I wasn't surprised, I already knew this outcome was probable. So then I said "next you'll say you can't hang out next week" And she said "yeah about that my cousin is coming up next weekend I THINK, so if she does, I cant hang out" I was a bit surprised at THAT point, but still wasn't really all that shocked. I told her to cut the BS and just tell me if she changed her mind about this all or not. She said she wants to see me and stuff but she doesn't know if we can date still because of how busy she is. I said bs. At this point, I knew I should've listened to everyone. Hell, everyone said she was out of her element dating me and I should be with a hell of a lot better looking girl... even though my ex was pretty. She had a pretty face anyways. But thinking about how so many people said that, really helped right now. For NOW though. The pain never does start for a week or two. I told her its cool, do what you want. Then I told her "I'll let how much you're going to miss me, speak for itself". Then she just said some more bs saying how she wants to see me and I was like "yeah definitely" sarcastically. Just kept blowing her off. Too many girls out there to be pulled into such mind games. F it.
Flying Burrito Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 You were miffed that you didn't get your holiday, you had a bit of a snit and now you're taking the easy out. Poorly done. That was just a lot of lip service about wanting that second chance. Admit it. You gave up before you started. You're the one making the choice. You're giving up on her. Poor.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 No burrito, not at all. Not even in the least. I would've taken a bullet for that girl. She's the one who ruined both plans. Go talk to her about poor choices, not me.
crisla Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I just read your story, I feel so sorry for you. I thought you are back together. I guess no such things as a second chance huh?.. The back of her head I'm sure she misses you and love you. But she isn't sure if she does the right thing to be with you again. Be strong, I know you can do it. Once is over, its over. Never look back. Good luck.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Thank you CH, I am strong enough to make it through this. I will just consume myself with exercising for a while and what not... I'll make it through this. Thank you for your time in responding and your consideration.
crisla Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I will just consume myself with exercising for a while and what not... I'll make it through this. Sorry off topic: I had to laugh.. Me too.. I was exercising like maniac for the first month after we were broken up. I lost 5 pounds and I don't even need to lose any weight. I am slender 5.2 and 95 pounds. I don't need to lose anymore weight. I did it because I feel so much better after exercised.. ROFL.. You can get through this. I believe you can make it. Take care.
playlislay Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 S**t hun, I was sooooooo happy for you ( Listen, time will heal you and seeing as she is the one that is being dispondent, that will hopefully help you get over her? Keep up with the workouts dude and STAY STRONG! ) x
not_a_happy_camper Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Dude....................Maybe you're over-reacting a little? I"m sure the break wasn't easy on her either, even if it was her who did the breaking up. i"m guessing this from the tearful reunion. maybe she's loathe to starting up again so quickly? obviously after being apart there are probably things you need to discuss. being cutting with her the way you answered her text messages won't do you any favours. by all means, don't take crap, but there are better ways of handling these things, and it sounds like you too are walking away without a fight. You don't have to beg. Just state your case, and tell her if she wants to be with you, it's going to take a bit more effort than what she's giving which is nothing right now!
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Thank you all for replying and sympathies, its ok. And camper, she told me straight forward she's not sure she and me should hang out because I think we're gunna start dating again, and she can't promise that because she's so busy.
flash582 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 You could always ask her if you can take her (insert best friend/cousin/jealous sister's name here) on vacation instead of her. It delivers a nice message however I wouldn't really recommend it.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Lmao flash. That is awesome. That would be the last time she would ever speak to me again. ...I'll keep it in mind.
not_a_happy_camper Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 dude, that sucks, i'm sorry back to square one I guess. What happened to the other girl you were seeing after her?
Aerorobyn Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Dang! I'm so sorry Thomas. I was sure from that last post of yours that there was going to be a great reconciliation. I can torture her a bit if you want. You know--a few little phone calls here and there, maybe a few visits from a random stranger.
melissa123 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Grrr what is with this girl and always being 'busy'!!! Thats such a poor excuse!! She makes me mad and I dont even know her!! She keeps playing stupid mind games with you it seems! Im really sorry things didnt work out but you could do better Act like you dont care, act like you better than her stupid mind games! And ya I agree, take her bestfriend on holiday! haha Also what happened to the girl you were dating before all this? xx
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Thank you aero, camper and melissa. Lol aero you are awesome.. And melissa (and camper) the girl I dated after, well, her and me broke up. We still talk but we aren't together. Girls always tell me they can't believe I am single. Well wtf? How come I'm still single then? No logic on earth could define this...
not_a_happy_camper Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 dude we've all heard that line from time to time, and it's sickening when we do! if we knew the answer, we wouldn't be single! sadly, things are never that easy
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Lol from time to time? Try every single girl you say more than two words to. ...Or maybe they're flirting? Who the hell knows. All I know is I want a girl who doesn't lie and let you down like this last one. (The one this topic is about).
Aerorobyn Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Ah, just trying to cheer you up a bit. I wouldn't really do it. Unless you really wanted me to...haven't done prank calls in years! Yeahhh...I agree with Camper though. Who hasn't heard that line? Besides maybe a six year old... Oh well. Being single can't be too bad, can it? There's freedom to enjoy!
gavinus Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Sorry to hear things went bad, Thomas X , but at least you tried, hopefully this will provided the final closure so you can move on to somebody way better, be strong
Author Thomas X Forever Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 Thank you gavinus. Much appreciated. Sorry you were screwed over by your girl too. I'm sorry all of us were screwed over by the ones we loved.
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