jebstuart01 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 i have fallen in love with a co worker. she is married and has been for almost 2 years. we have been seeing each other for about 1 year. She was abused before and told me she thinks the only reason she got married was for protection. I would do anything for this woman. she told me this passed week that she loves me. she keeps saying about us getting a house but then turns around and says she has no plans on leaving hubby right now. I am hurting so bad i need help i cant walk away for her i tried but i just want her to be happy
InvisibleGirl Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 if she wanted to leave she has two legs. let her work on her own problems while you look for a woman who is available
lkjh Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Shes a cheaters and living in a fantasy world. She is not leaving.
flash582 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Man ... your being taken for a ride. Either enjoy the ride and be quiet about it (but buy yourself a bullet proof vest in case Hubby finds out) Or walk and find someone else.
Athena Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Allowing yourself to get emotionally involved with a married person eventually wears down on your self-esteem and confidence. In the long run, this relationship will only serve to damage you, while boosting her ego.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Tell her goodbye and end the affair completely. Go no contact. If she loves you enough, she'll divorce so she can be with you..Let her actions show you, not her words. It's EASY for her to tell you "I am going to leave, just wait abit longer.." The thing is, the longer you wait, she'll give you another reason why the D can't happen. Right now you make her happy enough so she can still be married and get the benefits of living in the same house, her lifestyle etc..She's got TWO men meeting all her needs, so why would she give one up?
blueintheface Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 but i just want her to be happy she is happy. she has hubby and you on the side. she has it pretty made. She was abused before and told me she thinks the only reason she got married was for protection. this isn't regency period. she could have just gotten a move-in bf. abuse isn't an excuse for actions. it cab be an explanation. btw, do you realise you're getting emotionally abused? her husband is getting his trust abused? just because someone is abused doesnt give the person a right to hurt others.
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