little luver Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I have an amazing guyfriend, and I like him a whole lot. My boyfriend left me recently, and my friend was there for me, and that's partially what made me like him so much... although I feel bad for my ex saying that I've kind of liked my friend for a while now. Now, I know my friend likes me, too... but he's a shy guy. I'd like to be his girlfriend, but I don't know how to go about taking him out of his shell and showing him that I think of him as more than just a friend. When I flirt, he reacts positively, but I don't think he takes it personally, and I wish that he would. How do I go about getting him to know the full extent to which I care for him? Thanks for your time!
flash582 Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 A little alcohol, and give him a kiss .... See what happens.
CommitmentPhobe Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 He's nice and he's shy, he's your friend and you like him? Well that's one in the eye for every negative male stereotype A little alcohol and give him a kiss.. sounds reasonable.
Author little luver Posted April 5, 2009 Author Posted April 5, 2009 Haha! Is that all it takes? What if he doesn't drink? Will just a kiss suffice?
Flamenco81 Posted April 5, 2009 Posted April 5, 2009 A kiss will definitely suffice. I don;t even know why girls have to ask this. You know you have all the power in your hands if you know he likes you. Literally just walk up to him and kiss him. There is NO guy that is going to react negatively to that.
Author little luver Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 And if he doesn't DEFINITELY like me? *winces*
flash582 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Hairy ... consider yourself reported. You are soooo obviously a Troll, or some 14 year old jacked up punk kid, that you have no concept of just how NON funny and UNWELCOME your post was. In fact ... feel lucky that you didn't make that comment to a lady in the real world when I was nearby. So ... go troll some Internet porn site and get your keyboard even stickier. Because you obviously have NOTHING useful nor INTELLIGENT to say. MODERATORS ... would it be ok to post this persons IP address to the Group? I'd certainly love to look him up and have a long talk with the Authorities about his needing mental evaluation.
flash582 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 And if he doesn't DEFINITELY like me? *winces* You're not really giving us enough background to even guess what his reaction would be .... how long have you been friends? Circumstances of your friendship? How old is he? What is his relationship history? What is your relationship history.
flash582 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 well your ugly as **** so you might as well try and get on him cause you sure as hell aint gettin on anyone else. if he doesnt work out, consider death..ending it..it may not sound good now, but think of how much pain your going through now being as ugly as you are..guys look at you and laugh your so ugly..so why not..i hate to break it to you but i mean take a good look at yourself realize that no guy likes a girl 5 foot 4 inches, 220 pounds, hides her dildo in her rolls of fat, and has zits all over her face with a huge bush. get real and figure it out..good luck Ignore this loser ... he is obviously describing his self and lashing out at anyone because of either his micro Miniscule Wee Wee or his inability to not make women throw up in his presence.
era Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Ignore this loser ... he is obviously describing his self and lashing out at anyone because of either his micro Miniscule Wee Wee or his inability to not make women throw up in his presence. LOL @ micro, miniscule wee wee. All his 19 posts are abusive. I reported them to the Mods
flash582 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 LOL @ micro, miniscule wee wee. All his 19 posts are abusive. I reported them to the Mods I read somewhere that they did a study on abusive internet posters and found a 100% correlation between penis size and abusive behavior. The more abusive they are the smaller their wee wee. A sad but true fact of life. His transposition of anger towards others is actually transference of his own fear of never being able to sexually gratify a partner. Some times it is so extreme that they become closet homosexuals ... you know the type ... the type that truely Gay or bisexual people hate because they're so repressed and messed up. Getting married and living a double life sucking dick on Sunday afternoons in the local park or truck-stop, after taking the family to church in the morning. So, so, so sad. Hairy ... I implore you ... it's not too late to seek the help you need.
moondogg Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I say kiss the guy If he is shy chances are that he does like you and has thought about u as his girl but he might not know how to approach u, I was a shy guy myself and missed out on a lot of oppertunities He could be thinking the very same thoughts u are thinking and might be scared that u dont feel the same and avoided it to avoid being rejected. Go for drinks or a movie, wear something sexy and look as gorgueous as u are to make him sit up and take note and then hint, let him know and kiss him if u have to but create the perferct atmosphere.Dont sleep him him cause he might loose respect for u for sleeping with him soon. Have fun,flirt and use physical touching like brushing of your hand over his arm, playfully hitting him if he makes a joke, eyecontact etc........he cant miss those signs. He knows you well and knows all ur secrets, and vice versa. Who knows, something special might just develop, u can always laugh about it later if it doesn work out. You ll neva know untill you u try and U DONT WANT ANY REGRETS LATER ON! PS. Dont worry about the "average frustrated chump- Hairy" I think he s angry at the world and at woman in general cause he can tget none lol but I do think he needs some serious help, what he said was obviously nonesense cause he does NOT know u and doesnt know how u look like so dont take note of him.
Author little luver Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Haha! Thank you all for standing up for me. He only got my height right anyhow. But I'm only 110 pounds. LOL! So anyway, I'll keep in mind all of your advice. Everyone but the hairy-butt guy gave me good advice to consider... I hope I do alright at making a romantic atmosphere. I may invite him to a coffee shop with me, and I can kiss him afterwards when I thank him for going with me. Do you think that would be nice? There's a pretty little place down the street from my house, and I go there with friends sometimes. Going with just him could be a sweet casual date if I do it right. Thank you all so much! I hope that hairy guy wasn't a sexually frustrated as you all say he is... I kinda feel bad for him, because I'm not a bad person, and it's awful that he would take it out on anyone... even a stranger. So pathetic. I love all of you that took care of me. <3
flash582 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Little, Don't try too hard ... because you'll come off as ... well, trying too hard. Go out together, just the two of you and have some fun. Coffee is great if his idea of a great time is casual conversation. This should be the most natural thing in the world .... because you've already jumped the first hump ... you've already become best friends. If you don't want to go for broke all at once, (and the advice about touching is right on the money, by the way) just kiss him on the cheek and look into his eyes ... or hold his hand. Hug him a little toooooo long. Whisper something in his ear. Just play it cool ... like it happens every single day.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 You said your friend always had feelings for you? Or is that what you're hoping? I hope you weren't keeping him on the back burner while you were with your BF. I'd be worried for your friend if that were the case. And if he had feelings for you while you were with your BF. I'd be worried that he really wasn't a friend, just some guy waiting for your BF to slip up so he could snag you for himself. Dating friends is an icky situation, especially when you're just coming out of a relationship. I do hope things work out for the both of you though. Just consider those things before you get too far ahead. I'd hate to take this thread off course but this is one reason why I wouldn't be comfortable with my GF having male friends. The OP's opening sentence to this thread shows her already existing attraction to this guy she calls her friend. Is he more than a friend now because you're single? Or has he always been a bit more than a friend? Was that attraction you have for him now always there? Even when you were taken? The idea of your SO having platonic friends of the opposite sex is so damn iffy. Especially when they're as close as the OP and her male friend. My GF told me that when she was single all of the male friends she had she'd always find something mildly attractive about them, something that would make them boyfriend material if she really wanted to pursue it. Is that how it always is for a female and her guy friends? What about when you're taken? Still or no?
CharismaCoach Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Making a move is a great way to go there. There really are very few guys who can have female friends that are really close and not have some sort of feelings for them. It is likely he already does like you and is just a bit shy and doesn't want to screw it up. Making statements starting with "I never realized __insert something you like about him___" will help re-frame the relationship with him. Also using the word "sexy" or "hot" about a character trait you like about him will also be clearer that you might be romantically interested in him. "You know you have always been a great listener and have been there for me. It is actually really sexy." Try that before you try to kiss him. Don't wait for a reaction just keep going with your conversation. Keep flirting with him and you'll see his reaction to you change. Either he will actively start putting some distance between you and trying to make sure nothing happens or he will be ok with it and then get closer to him and see if you can entice him into a kiss.
IcemanJB Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 If a girl made the move for the first kiss, I would actually feel slightly weird. Well, I can't say that for sure since it hasn't happened (sober that is). Maybe it's just me, but I love being the one going in for the first smooch, picking the right time, place, etc. There's just that moment where something screams in my head "kiss her NOW", and it hasn't been wrong yet. But by all means give it a shot. Maybe he's the type that needs the girl to act first. I like the coffee shop idea. That's my personal favorite; it's laid back, inexpensive, no pressure, leave when you want, open ended, etc...go for a walk afterwards and when you hug him kiss him on the cheek and see what he does.
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