bkaz01 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 so ladies if u were in a relation ship for 3years and three months and u broke up with someone in september but talked and hung out and had sex until say 3 weeks ago. would going no contact affect u at all and also for the ladies that have made the decision to go no contact was it hard for u. and did u still miss ur ex bf? im curious to see what it feels like from the ladies p.o.v.
Aerorobyn Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I don't know if I can really answer or be helpful to the first question. I've never had an ex where we broke up, and stayed FWB for another six months or whatever. The only thing even close to that was with an ex, who, after we broke up, we continued to talk/hang around and act like we were still together...but eventually he came around and said that he didn't want a relationship, then started dating some girl a week later...so I stopped hanging around him. NC for over a year. It didn't hurt me to implement NC, because I knew he was happy, and I was moving on and I found a great guy (my most recent ex). After that year, we came back into contact, and now we're good friends...feelings will always be there because I believed he was my first real love, but now I know that the breakup was for a reason, he was meant to be a good friend, nothing more...he's been helping me out quite a bit with current ex problems. My current ex...I made the decision nearly a week ago to go complete NC. The first few days were hard, because I just wanted to pick up the phone to call him and tell him one more time that I missed him, or send him a text or email. I kept myself from it though. It's only been about a week, but things are looking up. It really is helping me heal, and it's giving my ex the space he wanted/needed, and I'm finding out some new things about myself. I'm also learning that it isn't the end of the world...despite loving my ex and still wanting to be with him, I know there are others out there. I got a guys number a week ago...and I actually went to the bank this afternoon and one of the bankers randomly started talking to me/flirting with me, and gave me his number, lol. So yes, I miss my ex, I love him, I want him back...but at the same time, I'm now enjoying my freedom, my confidence has significantly improved, and I'm getting potential dates/partners if my ex never comes back!
Author bkaz01 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 but i mean if the ladies iniate the nc after all of that and everything is fine..1 why do it and 2. does it hurt like its hurting me i still think about her 24-7
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