Dolphin_145 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I was with my girlfriend for 3 years and then split up with her. She adored me, wanted commitment from me and to get married. But at the time I wasn’t ready and stupidly took her love for granted. Four months after we split I realised I had made a huge mistake and tried to get her back. Unsurprisingly, she was confused and changed her mind about taking me back 3 or 4 times over the space of a few weeks. After some deliberation and me giving her some space she finally decided to give me another chance. After reuniting everything went amazingly well, we are now engaged and I am so thankful and grateful that she took me back. The majority of women wouldn’t have and I realise I am a very lucky man. Here’s the but. While trying to get her back she was understandably very angry and got tore into my me doing a character assassination on me, listing all my faults to me and kept saying she had moved on and now wanted x, y, and z from a man. She also went on a second date with a guy, while I was trying to get her back, and told me she really liked him, how he was very different from me and she wanted to keep seeing him. This ripped a hole in me. It maybe irrational but now I've got her back, I've got this massive insecurity that she’s settled for me and I'm not really what’s she wants anymore. I can’t shake it and it’s eating me up. She says she was just confused, lashing out and all over the place. Its all a bit of a mess in my head that there was some truth in the things she said. Dolphin
troubadour Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Since you split up with her she was free to date anyone she wanted... and clearly she liked the other dude. You created this situation and now you have to deal with consequences of it. And you are right... x, y, and z are things which she wants from a man and I wouldn't ignore it as there was definitively "some truth" in what she said to you.
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