Darkness7 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I was just wondering if there are any specific signs that a relationship is truly over? Or any signs that there's still a possibilty of getting back together again? And does anyone have any success stories? I have been broken up with my fiancee for 3 weeks now and all I want is her back.
Thomas X Forever Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 The only surefire way to determine if a relationship is truly over: One of you two are no longer living. Other than that, it's free for all. All is fair in love and war. Use No Contact on her and manipulate her into missing you and coming back. But you can NEVER break the No Contact rule unless she comes back saying things like she messed up and misses you. Some people will tell you it isn't fair to manipulate people like that. I say all is fair in love and war. They say NC is just used to heal. Well, if she doesn't come back, then you WILL heal. NC manipulation is win win either way. Lose lose for the person who broke up with you though but too bad for them, why would you cry any tears for someone who broke your heart. Manipulate her and never look back. And yes, I do have a success story. Look at my topic "A happy ending.. for once.."
Aerorobyn Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I'd have to agree with Thomas. There is always a possibility for a relationship again if both of you are still around and willing. However, I wouldn't hope for it, nor would I sit around waiting and thinking about it every second of the day. I learned that the hard way. It has only been three weeks since my breakup, with the first two weeks of me feeling very miserable (I was begging and pleading for him to come back). Until one day, he decides he has had enough of my begging and pleading, and completely tells me off. Which, in turn, I wasn't even that "sad" about, rather I was MAD! After that I kind of got the whole, "I love you, but if this is how you're going to treat me then F. You!" So I've been in NC with him for almost a week now, and it's really helping. I think he may actually be missing me somewhat. Anyways...only one of two things can happen for me (and anybody else going through a breakup): (1) The ex will come back and want to work on things; (2) The ex will not come back, thus NC will help you to become a better person and find someone worth your time and effort.
EmperorR Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I agree with Thomas, my ex fiancée cheated and dumped me I did nc to get her back it didn't work however it allowed me to heal
LoveLace Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I say, if you decide you want them back and your 100% sure, and nothing seems to make it unreasonable, why not just tell them. Then you risk rejection yes, but there is only so much NC you can take if "healing" doesn't really start to occur...some people heal better and faster than others...and it depends on the relationship...I think just coming out with it is pretty easy, compared to what you are risking to do it...it's easy to crack without being prepared for all possible results...if you start to feel that you are "healing", let it go that way...if not then just say what you feel. If your heart is broken after that, THEN you have no choice but to heal.
sparklemama Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Theres always a chance there have been many times were me and my ex boyfriend were over and i was devestated only to get back together two or three weeks later.I really hope that you can do the No contact because if it is meant to be it will be.Dont sit around wasting your life thinking about how she may come back or if she will come back.Go out and keep yourself busy and when you feel like your about to call her quickly call a friend and tell them your going over to hang out or just step out and go somewhere and keep busy because i know from experience that if you dont you will call and will end up feeling worst.Also many times we know when a relationship is no good for us and we keep going back because we dont want to feel the pain but in the end it will happen again and you will be right back to this same situation.So if you know for sure chances are things will end again and theres no way in making it work then you need to let yourself feel that pain so that you can heal.I wish you the best!
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