Lucky555 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 He has been contacting me for a little over a month. I like him but I have not been giving him any indication that I am interested in him because...... I have a lot going on in my life right now Right now i think the ball is in my court where i talk to him but i have not for the sake of "trying to not get hurt" He has not asked me out or anything which is due to me not showing that im interested. I know i came up with a dating theory and its in place but I don't want to overwhelm myself with dating right now, I just need to get this month over with! What do you all suggest I do? Do i initiate conversation with him and let it be until the month is over?
zhsoj Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Resign yourself to being single for the rest of your life... When is life not hectic?
samiam143 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 seriously. Life is always hectic when and it's never convenient. So get used to it unless you plan on being alone the rest of your life.
2sure Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 He is interested but....you are not. If you were, you wouldn't be too busy.
Author Lucky555 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I think i will wait for him to contact me when he is feeling like it. I am interested but not head over heels. I'm not head over heels because this is part of my theory of waiting to see how things go and then make up my mind. I am becoming more rational as to have a successful relationship at some point. In the past i would feel attracted to the guy and go with it then i just end up breaking up with them because I get "blinded" so to speak and don't think too rational. Yes, life is hectic but right now I have to finish up a semester and it is intense.
zhsoj Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I think i will wait for him to contact me when he is feeling like it. I am interested but not head over heels. I'm not head over heels because this is part of my theory of waiting to see how things go and then make up my mind. I am becoming more rational as to have a successful relationship at some point. In the past i would feel attracted to the guy and go with it then i just end up breaking up with them because I get "blinded" so to speak and don't think too rational. Yes, life is hectic but right now I have to finish up a semester and it is intense. Let us know how this works out for you.
2sunny Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I think i will wait for him to contact me when he is feeling like it. I am interested but not head over heels. I'm not head over heels because this is part of my theory of waiting to see how things go and then make up my mind. I am becoming more rational as to have a successful relationship at some point. In the past i would feel attracted to the guy and go with it then i just end up breaking up with them because I get "blinded" so to speak and don't think too rational. Yes, life is hectic but right now I have to finish up a semester and it is intense. if you were really interested you would MAKE little bits of time here and there for him. just like you're making time to post here. maybe he's not that interested in you and he's not making time either... it's just lukewarm all the way around...
Charles1978 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 You've managed to list many of the excuses people use when they aren't really interested in one post. Pretty impressive. Seriously though... don't string this guy along. Why waste your time with someone you aren't willing to make any time for? This will not be the only busy time in your life... so what are you going to do the next time you are busy? Put whatever relationship you are in on hold? Of course not. Be honest with yourself and with him.
prettybaby Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 this is part of my theory of waiting to see how things go and then make up my mind. That's a funky theory you got there. In the real world, things kinda go like this: first you DATE somebody to see how it goes, and THEN you make up your mind about whether you want this to turn into a relationship or not. Get a coffee with the guy. He's not asking you to marry him. Unless you're not interested in him at all, then simply don't bother contacting him again. He'll get the point. And if this truly is the busiest month of your whole life, then just call him and say: "hey, this is a crazy busy month for me but I'd like to see you some time. How about Friday, May 1st, 7PM?" It's not that hard, seriously.
Author Lucky555 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 Well believe me it is a busy time in my life. But i see how you all are right. I need to take this more lightly and see how it goes. I will wait for him to contact me though, at least this last time.Then i will initiate and keep level headed. Prettybaby: good advise. If I'm too busy/stressed now there could be an arrangement made later. Good idea. Like i said i like the guy but i'm controlling my feelings. When i talk to him all i do is smile. so i think this is a good indicator of my interest. Its just i really want things to work out and I don't want my stress to make me seem undesirable and thats because i dont have time. Its much easier to type on here and work on things then going out. Time wise. We live about an hour apart. If we were to go out it would be like 4-5 hours just with driving and hanging out. As much as i would like to do this I know i have things i have to do and Its not as enjoyable. I like all of your advise it did get me to think about how i will approach this and how i can manage the ordeal. So i guess i have things thought out and I can give him "green light signs"
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