12ape Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Cutting the long story short, 2 months ago now I came out of a 4 year relationship. She ended it because she just wasn't "feeling" it anymore. 2 Months have passed and I have been going out alot with friends and friends of friends to just keep my mind off things and to get back out there. I have met my best-friend from college's friend, and I kinda.. Like her in that way. We have a little history between me and the girl I like now, we made out at a club (drunk), hug when we see each other, talk on facebook/text message/MSN and just have a laugh. And every time I have to leave to go home, she "pecks" up ready to be kissed by me.. So I do it anyway, because I like her. But this is like after every occasion I see her, and I know she doesn't kiss anyone else that night...? (As far as I am aware). But I want to know, does this mean anything? Because my best-friend from college did mention she does Make out, hug people at clubs when shes drunk and likes them? This is a little off-putting in my mind, and feels like im giving myself false-hope for a potential relationship with her? I must say, she is actually a really nice person to her friends and close friends. Getting onto the story, I went to the club last night with her, my friend and her friend. We had a talk, socialise with other people and just had a laugh. As the drink flows down my neck I notice she is being friendly with other people she knows like hugging them and getting on with them more than we do, I blame myself for being a little shy and reserve..? I’m standing there with friends starting to get a little jealous, because I like her. But she knows I like her, is she playing mind games with me to see if I get a reaction out of it or what? So me being a complete idiot, I decided to leave the club and go-to the pub across the road to talk to my close-friend about what’s going on. So I hugged the girls and said I’m going to the pub, as the club is making me feel sick. Then I start to get texts from her saying where I am, who I with am with and what is wrong. So I just say, I need fresh-air and to clean my head because I’m feeling “crap”. So after the club finishes, and that my ride was about to pick me up. I went over saw the girls, said hi and that I had to get out the club because I needed some air/time with a friend. But it was quite awkward, when I was speaking to them.. It felt distant? So we were standing outside talking for a bit, and there was the “crush” shivering, so I offered did she want a hug? But she replied “Nah. I’m ok thanks”. So I was like “alright then”. So we stood outside for a little longer, and the girls had to go so I was like “Ok, see you later”. Hugged the girl I like, then she looked at me and pecked up? Like she wanted a kiss from me? WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? So I was just going to be the gentlemen and give her a little kiss on the lips. And said goodbye . Then hugged her other friends who I get on with and said bye to them too. Feeling like crap, I went home, and went straight to bed. In the morning I got a text from her saying: Her: “ What was up last night babe? x x “ Me: I replied “ Just stuff in my head making me feel sick” Her: “ Did I upset u? coz I got upset that u were upset coz “J” said I upset you. Wow that’s a lot of upsets x “ Me: “ Bad times, “J” is a dummy haha, I’m being an emofag recently x” Her: “ No our not your lovely I just didn’t know what happened” I just don’t know what to text back, and that was 4 hours ago.. I don’t know what to feel anymore, all I know is that I like her in that way.. Any help? Thanks, Sam M
goldencloud Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Hey, Since you guys are already close as it is, she obviously knows the type of person you are. Why not just be honest with her? This isn't some random person you met of the street, but rather someone I assume you've known for a while, and wouldnt think less of you if you were honest about what you felt. There is no need for wild declarations of adoration, but perhaps simple truth might be easier as you'll put all your cards on the table, and then balls in her court hope this helps!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 Cutting the long story short, Any help? Yes, ... shorter
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