thereasonwedream Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I'm here looking for advice... I've been with my boyfriend now for just under three years. We've had our ups and downs as most couples do but overall it's been a good three years. He asked me to marry him and gave me a ring in October or 2007, after a little over a year together. But ever since then he hasn't wanted to talk about marriage at all. He wants to wait. But i don't understand what he's waiting for. He just says that he's not ready. I don't try to push it but I've brought it up a handful of times since he gave me my ring. I'm 24, I'll be 25 this year and he's 37. Our age difference had never been a problem, it's actually been fine since he's a lot more mature then most men my age. But you'd think he'd want to settle down. We've lived together almost the entire time we've been together so does he think that's enough? I really don't know. He works on the road so he's gone weekdays and home weekends. I lived out on the road with him until a few months ago when his job moved him a little closer to our hometown and we decided to get a place there. I stay home all week and he comes home every weekend. He use to call everyday several times a day. Well the calls have dwindled down I started checking our phone logs. Long story short I drove to the town he works in(four hours away) met the girl he was cheating on me with, we both confronted him...he was embarrassed and mad and he took off basically running out of the bar we met him in, lol...that part was funny. Well I went home. He came home the next day said he never meant to take it that far ( thank goodness all they did was kiss)...This was two weeks ago. I've tried to not think about it and he has tried to talk to me more but the guys he's staying with and drinking with every night seem to be the main priority to him...he's acting like a teenager again. What do I do?? Give up a three year relationship with someone I love with all my heart or try to deal with it and hope he changes back to his old self????
Beautiful Inside Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 IM SORRY sweetie, i think you should let it go and if he really wants you back he need to earn your trust back. he has betrayed you, he was your best friend you partner in life you were suppose to get married and he does this! its so selfish....i think he needs to not take you for granted and appreciate what he has. i would take some space from him and figure things out. this is serious so take your time and as much space as you need. i just want to let you know there are people out there that WILL NEVER cheat on you no matter how bad things get...
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