sophieu Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Hello I need some comfort please...I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and we live together, i moved here from a different state and left everything behind for him. My story is long and complicated but long story short we were gonna buy a house but it fell through and so he proposed to me to move out of state where I have a house but yesterday we had the worst argument and it turned out very violent now my boyfriend won't talk to me, he yelled at me horrible things and pretty much told me "get out of my life" he pretty much exploded because of my lack of interest in going out with some of his friends and spending time with his family but i never meant to do harm i didn't want to go out at times and told him to go by himself so now he's rubbing everything on my face saying that he would've gone out with my friends and family if i asked him and he got really really angry and since we were planing on moving to our new home but it did not work our apt lease ended and we are now living at one of his friends house while we move out of state but I also had an argument with his friend a few days ago and he's been really cold and from that days we had a few arguments. Last night i went to a hotel to think and to give us a break. I love him I am not ready to let him go I don't want to break up with him I want to work it out, i love him and I regret not going out and being by his side when he asked me so today i came home and he's cold, i told him we needed to talk calmly and i ask him to let me know when he was ready but honestly i don't think he's going to. What should i do? I want to try to talk to him calmly whenever he's ready to try to gain his love and trust again and move on to our new house if he is willing to listen...and since he won't talk to me i don't know if there is anything left but I want to find out, i want to point out the fact that he proposed the move to my state to start fresh to where I have family and friends... The other option I hate is to walk away but it breaks my heart I don't want that I want to leave with him, I hate thinking that I am going to get to my old house all alone, I just want to disappear I can't eat, sleep or drink I just want everything like before, our move date was in 10 days and now I am running out of time...I have prayed to God for another chance ...I am not a bad woman i have put a lot into the relationship as well. How can i get him to talk to me...i don't want to keep bothering him with the same question... "can we talk" where he'll say yes and will never do it...i don't know... I don't know I am loosing my mind... I want him back I guess his plan is to drag me with the same answer until day 10 where I have to get on a plane and leave which i think is pretty cruel from his side. I know i have to have respect for myself and dignity but I just want to give it another try or have some kinda closure. I know there was love in his heart for me before he can't just forget it in one day...
Thomas X Forever Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and we live together, i moved here from a different state and left everything behind for him. This sounds to be the mistake. Sounds like you were rushing things. Of course when things are rushed, they won't end up well. Can you go into more detail about why you jumped after 12 months?
Author sophieu Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 we moved in together after 6 months of communication....we have had a great relationship but it seems to me that his friend is part of this change of mind now I don't want to be judge-mental but my heart is telling me that he's being told bad advice from his friend....
Thomas X Forever Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 It's very possible. Most friends don't know when to shut the hell up and mind their own business. You moved in after knowing eachother for 6 months? This doesn't sound like rushing to you? How old are you guys?
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