lonelypiscesguy Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I wrote in another post about my ex GF and how she broke-up with me and how much I missed her. MISSED her. It's only been a week and a day and I already feel better. But I was thinking about how much we learn from someone when we date them, about ourselves, our boundaries, etc. BTW, if this belongs somewhere else, sorry, move it at your leisure. 1. An LDR is very difficult to maintain (no duh, right?) 2. Never date someone who has more baggage than you. She has been clean and sober for a little 2 years now, and she'd better stay that way or I'll kick her butt! I really do want her to stay that way. 3. Sex becomes far more important in a LDR. If it's not there when you visit, it won't last. I won't tolerate games anymore, not sexual, not any kind. 4. I may very well be as thoughtless as she said I am, and I need to seriously do some work on myself before getting involved again. She said she doesn't think I'm a "selfish pig", her words, just that I can be thoughtless sometimes. 5. She looked for me for 26 years, and that's a long time to carry a torch for somebody. I will try harder next time to be more considerate, but in my defense, I did make some sacrifices on her behalf. She was the most romantic, flattering thing that has ever happened to me, and I doubt I'll ever have something like that again. I'm truly sorry I couldn't be what she wanted me to be. 6. Loving someone only to lose lose them hurts both parties, but loneliness sucks! 7. Don't give up hope, while at the same time, trying to make yourself better for the next person that comes along.
Donovan Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 2. Never date someone who has more baggage than you. She has been clean and sober for a little 2 years now, and she'd better stay that way or I'll kick her butt! I really do want her to stay that way. this should be the most important thing. i personally have no baggage whatsoever. but i'm ALWAYS getting the girls with tons of luggage. and it never works as they treat me like garbage. I'll learn my lesson one day.
EmperorR Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 this should be the most important thing. i personally have no baggage whatsoever. but i'm ALWAYS getting the girls with tons of luggage. and it never works as they treat me like garbage. I'll learn my lesson one day. I'm the same way, my ex fiancee, low self esteem always cut herself Now this ex, physically abused by her past bf, smoker and a alcoholic One day we will learn my man on eday.
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