UCLAMike Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 We've known each other as a light acquaintance from 7 years ago. We've been apart since then and she has dated around for a long time. We sort of hit it off and I just found out that she is just coming out of a 3 yr relationship. They "almost" got married. She's been broken up for 1 month now. She says the breakup was mutual and that she saw it coming from a mile away. She says she was gonna marry him because he had to go back to his home country after his student visa expired, but later she decided that he wasn't the one for her. I asked her if she is over him and has healed fully. She said yes. Should I take her word for it? I mean I can respect her words but 1 month broken up from a 3 yr committed serious relationship seems a little... too fast? I ask this because she was super receptive to me and we just clicked. I don't know if she is looking for a rebound, but who would actually say that they are looking for a rebound? lol
Porn_Guy Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 She says the breakup was mutual and that she saw it coming from a mile away. She says she was gonna marry him because he had to go back to his home country after his student visa expired, but later she decided that he wasn't the one for her. I asked her if she is over him and has healed fully. She said yes. she's most likely lying about the above...
Loxx Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Is he is bringing up or comparing you with him in any way then you should beware!! Even is its oh my ex boyfriend would have never done that, how sweet type stuff. If she is truly over him she wont initialize convo about him.
Author UCLAMike Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 Is he is bringing up or comparing you with him in any way then you should beware!! Even is its oh my ex boyfriend would have never done that, how sweet type stuff. If she is truly over him she wont initialize convo about him. She never brought it up until I did. But one thing that does bug me is "I like talking about this. It makes me understand what happened more." I thought to myself, "Wait, so you still didnt fully comprehend the breakup?"
Author UCLAMike Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 btw we've been only talking very casually and lightly for about a week.
Loxx Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 She never brought it up until I did. But one thing that does bug me is "I like talking about this. It makes me understand what happened more." I thought to myself, "Wait, so you still didnt fully comprehend the breakup?" I can totally understand, but if you need reassurance from her failed relationship, she will eventually maybe even subconciously see you as weak! You need disregard her past and act like your the best thing she could ever have hoped for, and will ever get.
danb Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I agree with above. You should forget any serious expectations and just have fun with her. Be the stable one.
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