loser101 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I broke up with him about a month ago. we hadn't been dating long but things were moving fast, we were friends first, shared a house initially so we got to know eachother quickly and the attraction was there from day one. the break-up was due to circumstances out of our control, I would have stayed with him happily for a while at least otherwise. I think the feeling was mutual. we were on different continents at the time so couldn't discuss it properly, now that I'm back in Europe I got in touch with him to make sure we had a proper chat and that there were no misunderstandings. he ignored me for ages, just as I started giving up, he called me and agreed to go for a coffee. we kept texting throughout the day, the break-up got mentioned and he completely flipped on me. I mean he lost it badly, he is really young - which is why I wanted to talk to him in the first place because I am trying to be responsible about this. I shouldn't have got into the whole texting thing with him but I could tell he was tense and I tried to re-assure him. it didn't work obviously. my question is: what's the best thing to do now? I tried to reassure him that freaking out was normal and that I wasn't offended. I think the best is just to leave it now for a while and see if he is ever ready to talk. is that the best approach? I don't think there is anything I can say now that would calm him down and I don't want to wind him up more. certainly don't want to push him away further. it's clear that he doesn't quite understand the reasons for the break-up so a chat (when he is ready) would be beneficial to him. so after encouraging him to get in touch, I'm just going to wait.
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