redant Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 ANy time I express some issues I might be having with my SO. SOme friends say how "I need to get out more, where'd you meet this guy?" I say "online" and then they seem to think I need to get out and meet people through friends NOT online. THese people are single, but go out and keep busy etc. I've met people both ways, but I like looking online and chatting and meeting people for dinner and coffee. Is that so weird? I mean am I limiting myself that way? Sometimes I stay home on weekends and sometimes I do things and it's easier for me to look online to see whos out there than to go "out there" all the time.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I think it's easier, quicker, and less awkward to weed out the losers online. LOL You can get to the quality quicker. I don't see a problem with it. One of my best female friends that I've known for 5 years, I met online on a forum. I have never met her in person, but I consider her one of my closest friends. And then, of course, there's my BF - we met online.
pollywag Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Online is definitely easy, and easy isn't always necessarily better. But having said that, if this method works for you then I see absolutely nothing wrong with liking it and sticking to it. Who cares what others think it's your life and if you feel you get what you need from it then carry on. Out of curiosity are your "issues" with your SO tied in to the fact you met online?
BCCA Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 to weed out the losers online Well, not always. I'm sure you can meet plenty of people that look golden online, but turn out to be creeps. And their picture online could look like a real hottie, but then you see them and your whole opinion changes. Online is easier, thats for sure. But being easy does limit your options.
Author redant Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I don't think meeting him online has caused issues. I had been meeting alot of people some stayed friends. I choose to be with him. I enjoy meeting people that way and formal dates. It's fun. Some people don't like formal dates but I do.
D-Lish Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I'm sick of all the fakers online. I was talking to some guy that had lots of pictures and they all looked candid, nice looking guy. I kept thinking he looked familiar- and then it hit me. This guy looked a lot like a guy I used to like from a TV show from 10 years ago called the Adventures of Sinbad. I googled the show, got the guys name- saw a picture gallery- and sure enough, these were recent photo's of the actor. That seems to be happening so much! But I am with you- I don't get out as much anymore, so it's hard to meet people. I haven't had a date from online since October where I met my last ex. Everyone seems to be a bull****ter.
sb129 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I met my husband online. I agree that its easier to weed out the losers, and I got pretty lucky he is the only person I met IRL after a few false starts emailing. Whatever works for you really, its just another avenue to meet people.
pollywag Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I don't think meeting him online has caused issues. I had been meeting alot of people some stayed friends. . Reason I asked is because you said your friends tell you to dump online dating when you express problems in your current relationship. I am still trying to figure out what the connection is between the two?
Author redant Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I think what they are saying is that I wouldn't have any issues if I met someone at a social event or through friends and because I met him online he is and the relationship is defective.
pollywag Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I think what they are saying is that I wouldn't have any issues if I met someone at a social event or through friends and because I met him online he is and the relationship is defective. Nonsense, there is no guarantees no matter where you meet. I will tell you this though and this is my personal observation in terms of online dating, I found that when I was meeting guys online I was connecting with them really well before hand and then I would meet them and the chemistry wasn't 100% there so I would force myself to give it a chance and was always trying to "make it work" and if that was happening to me I can't see why this would not happen to the other person. I prefer meeting in person because you are both on the same page, you meet, boom! you are clearly attracted to each other he asks you out, you agree, now it's a matter of getting to know each other to see if it is a good fit. Then again, I am not of the idea that you choose to fall in love. If I did think like that then I could make myself love whomever I chose, but I can't fool my heart. Marriage is not a "goal" for me, it would happen strictly out of love and true desire for one another. So I prefer to let nature take its course.
EYECANDY000 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I say date whereever/whenever you want. It seems like if I tell my friends that I met someone on the internet, at a club, in a bar, it seems like i get the akward face. Like these arent appropriate places to meet , converse, and get to know someone at. You dont have to meet someone at a church, starbucks, etc for them to seem normal. Crazy people are on line and crazy people are in public. Just like Sane people are online and in public. It seems like people forget to realize that people online are just ordinary people too. so to answer your question if you like conversing with people on the internet then go for it.
prettybaby Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I personally prefer meeting someone in real life. I don't know, it seems more like fate and all that stuff lol And online just isn't my thing. Even though I enjoy forums and such, it's not the place I'd turn to for romance. That's my personal preference anyway.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 4, 2009 Posted April 4, 2009 I like looking online and chatting and meeting people for dinner and coffee. Is that so weird? I mean am I limiting myself that way? A. no B. of course
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