Jersey Shortie Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I'd like to know what men think they offer or bring to the table in a relationship? Alot of friends have been focused about what men think women offer. I am curious to see what men think they offer to a relationship.
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 A deep appreciation for and interest in her and other people, an interest in constantly improving myself in one way or another, healthy interests outside the relationship, looks, passable charm, wicked sense of humor, non-abusive, great cook, willing to tolerate in-laws I wouldn't otherwise spend alot of time with, a great lay, upbeat, non-critical and laid-back. But sorry, I'm taken. And you're too young for me.
You'reasian Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I'm better at this in the 3-D world, then on dating-related sites. I can try and sell myself up and if it doesn't mean the same thing to you, it would waste our time. For instance, I can say I'm active. I like to run, swim, cycle, row, liftweights etc - I ran races during the fall/winter and to triathlons in the spring/summer and you can tell - but I'm too big to be a Lance Armstong and to small to be Ah-nold. To me, that's the result of being active. To someone else, being active might mean tending a garden on the weekends and taking a few walks on the trail - great activities, but different meaning.
JamesM Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I assume you are looking for single men to answer this question? I am one of the good ones...married.
You'reasian Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I forgot to add that I've got a girlfriend, so I'm not available.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I'd like to know what men think they offer or bring to the table in a relationship? Alot of friends have been focused about what men think women offer. I am curious to see what men think they offer to a relationship. honesty, fidelity, fun, loving companionship, respect....etc. Why? What offers do you seek or find worthy?
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 But sorry, I'm taken. And you're too young for me. I'm now heartbroken. I am going to go slash my wrists. No single or committed men can answer. I am just curious what men think they bring to the table either way.
Art_Critic Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I always bring Mr Wiggles .. either on the table or under it.. it didn't matter When I was single I brought different things to different relationships... Each person was different and brought different things as well so what I brought changed based on that.. When 2 people are together they compliment each other.. when one person needs the other to be strong then you are strong.. when they need you to be soft then you are soft.. those kinds of things.. and vise versa... Are you looking to see what qualities we posses that another needs ?
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I'm now heartbroken. I am going to go slash my wrists. Try not to take it so hard; I've just found that young women just don't have as much to offer as older, more mature, and more fully-developed women. It's not you, it's me.
sultry33 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 didnt you do this before? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t162792/ im known for my rubbish memory .. or isthis the update?
voldigicam Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 A deep appreciation for and interest in her and other people, an interest in constantly improving myself in one way or another, healthy interests outside the relationship, looks, passable charm, wicked sense of humor, non-abusive, great cook, willing to tolerate in-laws I wouldn't otherwise spend alot of time with, a great lay, upbeat, non-critical and laid-back. But sorry, I'm taken. And you're too young for me. This seems to be about right for me. I tend to pamper lots, and be very accepting. Something that's really important is real caring. Real interest. A desire for connection and intimacy. Often greater than that of the women I meet. Technical skill, too. I can use ropes. I can also use machinery. Ability to role play well. I especially like _________. [i'd rather not fill in the blank]. A naughty mind. On the countering side, I do look at other women. Other people in general. And I like people watching and talking about what I see with a friend. Not something my SO likes.
Sam Spade Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 People get pissed precisely because they've got to offer, and then need to weed through a bunch of emotional messes telling them what's what until they find a sane one . (As for me, other than my anxiety and perfectionism, I'm perfect. Oh, wait !). I've got a cute dog and mad vintage style; given these essentials, everything else seems to fall in to place effortlessly . I also emphasise my strong family orientation and the ok paid and interesting career I love. Not to attract chicks, but to weed out the ones who consider these thing 'boring'. All the really good stuff is not "on paper" .
IcemanJB Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I hate talking about myself, but here it goes: emotionally stable, modest, stubbornly loyal, respectful (of her time, interests, family, etc.), active (running, playing racquetball, working out, etc.), good at fixing mechanical things (cars especially), good with computers, can take a joke and fire back at will , perceptive, know when to keep my mouth shut, speaking of mouths; I'm a good kisser I've been told often, respectful, family oriented, etc...
carhill Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Practical knowledge of other cultures, countries and airports. LOL. Currently broadcasting from Terminal C at Boston Logan. The above might sound corny, but I've found comfortable rapport with the larger world, along with stories of my adventures, does appear to be valued by and attractive to women. Also, as my female friend told me the other day, "you really care about people". Well, there ya go
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 Try not to take it so hard; I've just found that young women just don't have as much to offer as older, more mature, and more fully-developed women. It's not you, it's me. But I house train so easily. The above might sound corny, but I've found comfortable rapport with the larger world, along with stories of my adventures, does appear to be valued by and attractive to women. It is! Also, as my female friend told me the other day, "you really care about people". Well, there ya go I don't doubt that.
Shygirl15 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 didnt you do this before? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t162792/ im known for my rubbish memory .. or isthis the update? She's recycling her threads.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 Meow..catty catty. It's a message board, talk about the subject but don't complain about the subject brought up. Lots of threads around here are redone. And some of the guys nicely replied.
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 And some of the guys nicely replied. We were lying. We just want to suck you in so that we can later take a red-hot meat cleaver to your soul. It's what we do.
Shygirl15 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Meow..catty catty. It's a message board, talk about the subject but don't complain about the subject brought up. Lots of threads around here are redone. And some of the guys nicely replied. No need to get dramatic, it was just an observation. Nobody complained.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 I like to think of it more as men being on lawn mowers and plowing over anything in it's way leaving my soul in taters on the grassy knoll without even being aware of their doings.
alphamale Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I'd like to know what men think they offer or bring to the table in a relationship? Alot of friends have been focused about what men think women offer. I am curious to see what men think they offer to a relationship. personal protectionlookspersonalityhumourfree dinnerstransportationsexual fulfillmenta set date for sat nitesactivity partneremotional support as neededa shoulder to cry uponcompanionshipsomeone to feed the cat(s) when you're awaysomeone to help make your friend(s) jealous
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I like to think of it more as men being on lawn mowers and plowing over anything in it's way leaving my soul in taters on the grassy knoll without even being aware of their doings. Ah, but you underestimate us. We'll deliberately veer the mower to run over a frog or a small child's toy. Just because we didn't originally set out to rip apart the fabric of your very being doesn't mean we didn't enjoy it.
carhill Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 In another thread, I saw good guys, what a number of we LS men purport to be, equated with boring and/or predictable sex. IME, it is possible for a good guy to be uninhibited and adventurous sexually, as well as playful, but he just won't create the drama because he's sensitive to the feelings and needs of his partner. The key revelation for me was that I was attempting to attract the wrong kind of woman with my mix of traits. It wasn't those women's responsibility at all. They were following their path. Now, I wave to them on occasion but otherwise ignore them. Life on the divided highway So, I can add, topically, sexual adventurousness and lack of inhibition in meeting a woman's needs and fantasies. Also, though perhaps in marked contrast to other men who bond through sex, I find that I tend to bond through emotional and physical (non-sexual) intimacy and sexual desire grows out of that. It's happened often enough to not be a fluke. Unfortunately, this runs counter to the attraction process for some/many women, so hence limits the available potentials. Acceptance
Art_Critic Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Disappointment .... hahahaha I think everyone's lists are all about the same... The key is matching your needs with someone's qualities
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