loveproblems Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 My husband has been in the military for 18 almost 19 years. He has had a partying lifestyle in the past. He was raised by alcoholic parents and they were also drug users. He was married before and that ended badly for both parts. I am 7 years younger than him and although I grew up much poorer than he, I for the most part had a normal lifestyle. I rarely drink (to this day), I have never smoked and I have never done any drugs. I have pretty much all of my life, tried to live a very christian lifestyle and do the right things. We are both from Florida and grew up about 3 hrs away from each other and did not know each other at that time. As you can imagine, he partied a lot as a teenager/young adult. When I was down in the area he grew up in living together with our son, he treated me bad. He was very verbley abusive and I put up with a lot of things from him. I know this isn't what you are supposed to do, but I put our son first, ahead of myself. He was a baby at the time and my husband was a great father. So, I let myself endure that abuse and just prayed that one day it would all come together. I have endure alot of heartaches in my life. From my father never coming back home when I was 9, to being pregnant and having my mother die a couple weeks before I had our second child, then my husband being sent away for 15 months to Iraq,while our child (the 2nd one) was just 3 months old. Not to mention my husbands parents, who think it's okay to drink while driving with my children in the car and smoke there drugs while my children were around, who also believe that I am not good enough for there son and of course let me know that. With that being said, they are not a part of my childrens life. My husband was offered a better new position in the military off we went. Now we live about 18 hrs away from Florida and we have been away from there since 2005. I thought everything was going fine. He cleaned up his act about 6 years ago and we have been great. Then comes facebook and myspace and reconnecting with old friends. Now last night he says, he misses being back there. What?! He misses his old friends and just hanging out have bbq's and old times. I get that he was a jock and had fun as a teenager, but he is far from a teenager. Why can't he let it go? He put me through alot back then. I just do not understand. So if there is a man out there who gets it, please tell me why he feels this need to relive that time in his life. Because as you can imagine, I am feeling that this came out of left field.
Woggle Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Most men have fond memories of their wild days. There is nothing like just hanging out with friends and having a ball together. Not saying that he should let it get out of hand but there is nothing wrong with nostalgia.
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