ans562 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I dated a girl for about three months long distance. I guess it ended back in November, but I was not sure of this until one month ago. We talked and I told her we could be friends. I didn't think about it long enough, but I just can't be her friend, no way. I liked this girl waaaaaaaaaaay too much. I haven't contacted her in a month and today she called me out of the blue. We talked for 45 minutes. I feel like I gave too much of myself away in the conversation. Even though I am trying to get over her, I was still very nervous during the conversation, felt uninteresting, and almost like I didn't want to be on the phone. We just talked about our lives, that was it. Par tof me wants to keep talking to her so badly. Sould I continue NC or is there maybe something else up. Please help me, I never get any responses.
Biker2007 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Ans, Sounds like you were not together very long, but I know you can still have some intense emotions for the girl. My one suggestion, if you have not already done so, is to tell her how you feel so you don't have any regrets. If she just wants to go the friends route then you have a couple of options: Be her friend while you still have feelings for her and drive yourself crazy.Keep up the NC until you are no longer vulnerable or really care what the X is doing. At this point, be her friend if it works for you (and her). If you choose option 2, there is no need to announce you are going NC...just do it and keep your chin up and move on as best you can. If you choose option 1...well, you know what you will be putting yourself thru. Good luck!
oasis Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I think that you should keep talking to her, with her making most of the contact. But try and contain your eagerness as much as possible, otherwise, you might end up scaring her off. For now, think of the relationship as strictly platonic and leave the "relationship talk" up to her.
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