Echo009 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Hello, I want to initiate some form of no contact with my wife.. who left me 3 weeks ago. Since she left I have been forced to go over to her parents house just to spend on hour or two with my kids. That ends Friday when we sign the custody arrangement. At that point I don;t want to see her unless I am dropping off or picking up the kids. It kills me, sucks every ounce of energy I have when I see her, even more so the longer I am around her. So what I am asking is, how can I do this? I stopped calling her a couple days ago except to say goodnight to the kids. Today she called and wanted to come over and divide up the remainder of our house assets (we did most on Saturday, which was 4 hours from hell). When I said I didn't really want to see her today, she got all pissy saying I wasted her time finding a babysitter ans such. She still wants to "get together" and discuss our car and house, both of which are currently in my possession and I am paying for both by myself as well as paying her child support. I don't want to get together to talk about this stuff until I can heal more and go in with a clear head. In other words, how can I do no contact when I can't not contact her? I need to pick up and drop off my kids, and she won't leave me alone about this asset division crap. It's been only 3 weeks! My god she wants to move fast.
loser101 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 she is probably struggling with the same thing except she is handling it differently. she decided to move on and wants a clean start and have 'NC' as much as possible - even though the two of you will always have to have contact because of the kids. I think the only way to do this is to follow her example to get the asset-division and everything else outstanding quickly out of the way. that's the only way you will get some space from all this
Author Echo009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I am willing to bet the farm she doesn't feel a fraction of what I feel, have felt. Because if she did, she would be willing to at least try to work it out. Would be willing to give it a shot for loves sake, for the children's sake. But no, her world is about her.
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