neveragain2493 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Guys... Have you ever been intimidated by a smart, funny, sophisticated, etc. girl? I recently went out with a guy I've known for years. He told me that for the past two years, he's been shy and hasn't known what to say to me because I intimidate him. He said I was pretty, smart, talented, independent, etc. Any further understanding or personal experiences?
somedude81 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 The only way I have ever been intimidated by a woman was when she is super hot. There have been a few occasions where simply being around a gorgeous woman made me nervous. It never had anything to do with how smart or talented etc, she is. Him telling you that you were smart, talented, independent, ect were probably just compliments. Do you consider yourself a good looking woman?
Sam Spade Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Only when I was 17 y/o. Oh, wait - back then I was intimidated by any girl. So - no.
zhsoj Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Yes, and I'm shy. I don't really see it as a bad thing necessarily. He's not still too intimidated to open up to you, is he? That could be difficult for you to tell, but I'd say that his telling you this is a good indication that he still is a little bit intimidated. I think there are a lot (if not the majority) of guys out there that would feel intimidated by a very accomplished woman. Weather or not they can deal with it would of course be the mark of a healthy individual.
You'reasian Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Guys... Have you ever been intimidated by a smart, funny, sophisticated, etc. girl? I recently went out with a guy I've known for years. He told me that for the past two years, he's been shy and hasn't known what to say to me because I intimidate him. He said I was pretty, smart, talented, independent, etc. Any further understanding or personal experiences? Those are all good qualities! When I was younger I might have been intimidated by those qualities, but nowadays I think its cool.
fishtaco Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Absolutely. Doesn't happen often, but once in a great while I would meet someone that seems to have everything. The intimidation is all dreamed up by me in my own mind, because I'd feel like she's out of my league, even though the "league" concept has no basis in reality; it's all perception. And then I become a dork. I met someone like that several years ago. I got her number, but maybe I under-achieved because I let myself get intimidated, I don't know -- I couldn't break into the romance arena with her. Now we're just friends that talk/go out once in a while.
treyfan88 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I consider myself a beautiful, sophisticated, intelligent young woman, lol. I think I intimidate a fair number of guys. Ohhh the stories I could tell, lol. I have a lot of them. I must say though, it takes BALLS to tell a complete stranger you're interested in them. I admire the guys who actually muster up courage to do it. So guys, if you're reading, the worst the lady can say is "no thanks." Doesn't hurt to try. A guy hit on me last week while I was driving---rolled down the windows and tried to start a conversation with me in my car. Before I could say anything back to him (to tell him kindly I had a bf) he sped away, zigzagging across the street like a madman, lol! One time this guy got so nervous while asking me out he ran into a wall and fell over! I felt so bad! But it was really sweet. Even my bf, when we met for the first time, he was so nervous his hands were shaking and he was accidently spraying his food on me when he talked, lol.
confused_2008 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I consider myself a beautiful, sophisticated, intelligent young woman, lol. I think I intimidate a fair number of guys. Ohhh the stories I could tell, lol. I have a lot of them. I must say though, it takes BALLS to tell a complete stranger you're interested in them. I admire the guys who actually muster up courage to do it. So guys, if you're reading, the worst the lady can say is "no thanks." Doesn't hurt to try. A guy hit on me last week while I was driving---rolled down the windows and tried to start a conversation with me in my car. Before I could say anything back to him (to tell him kindly I had a bf) he sped away, zigzagging across the street like a madman, lol! One time this guy got so nervous while asking me out he ran into a wall and fell over! I felt so bad! But it was really sweet. Even my bf, when we met for the first time, he was so nervous his hands were shaking and he was accidently spraying his food on me when he talked, lol. Well, aren't you special. OP, there's nothing wrong with him being a little intimidated by you, as long as he doesn't start idolizing you or putting you on a pedestal. Only time will tell if he gets over it or if it will become a problem for you two.
peteyj Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 i Think most people get nervous at some point, especially when everything is unknown, but as far as intimidated, I wouldn't say that I do when it comes to anybody. I've been in fights with far larger guys and I wasn't intimidated so some intelligent beautiful woman isn't going to really intimidate me that much. I walk up to complete strangers wherever I'm at all the time and start conversations. I do like talking to people most of the time even though I'm also a person who likes to not talk to anybody at times. Weird really... I don't worry about what other people are going to think whether I walk up to them on the street or if I'm on a date. What happens happens and if they like me they like me. For me though I think I become a little nervous if it's me meeting the attractive intelligent woman for the first or second time on top of meeting many of her friends at the same time. When I have to talk to not only her but 5 or 10 others who know her really well and I barely know her, I think that's when I get more nervous. You have to talk to everybody and sometimes you have to be liked by everybody. Doesn't really matter if they like you or not but in the end if you like the girl you do want her friends to sort of like you. And not knowing anybody and barely knowing the attractive intelligent girl and having to interact with all of them at the same time can be real tough. I'm good when it comes to 1 on 1 or 1 on 2 interaction, I'm good at giving public speeches, but when it comes to me interacting in a social setting with 10 other people i don't know it gets tough. Especially when they are all joking and laughing about inside stories i have no clue about.
fivefive Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Yes I've been intimidated but that hasn't stopped me from talking or interacting with women. Usually I'm intimidated by women who, as someone above mentioned, seem out my league. It also happens with women I'm interested in. Sometimes I just get nervous for no apparent reason.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Guys... Have you ever been intimidated by a smart, funny, sophisticated, etc. girl? I recently went out with a guy I've known for years. He told me that for the past two years, he's been shy and hasn't known what to say to me because I intimidate him. He said I was pretty, smart, talented, independent, etc. Any further understanding or personal experiences? The only time I've ever been intimidated is when the girl is smoking hot and has way more money than me. Because I'm kinda like damn why she's messing with me, her options are very open. Why me?
Author neveragain2493 Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 Yes, that's basically what he said with me: Why are you with me? He continuously said he was nothing special, but I was. And to answer your question, I find myself attractive, haha. He told me he thought I was beautiful/had a great body. What I find even stranger was that he told me he still thought about me while he was in a relationship. Obviously, he had a low self esteem.. He does not find himself attractive or talented whatsoever.
7117 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Treyfan88 get over yourself please.You do make the best point though all she can say is no I don't want to date you but the rest of the crap you typed ya ok.O tell me how pretty I am your that lady.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 My last boyfriend said to me more than once something like, "How did I manage to get a girl like you?", and made a few comments to suggest he thought I was more intelligent/talented/whatever than he is. I eventually figured out that his occasional attempts to "knock me down a few pegs" were probably rooted in his insecurity. It was unwarranted, though. If he had just relaxed and been good to me, I think we would have had it made. I often wondered how I got such a great guy -- but instead of saying THAT, I just told him how wonderful he was and how much I loved him.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I remember on one occasion I had to put myself out for this guy I met back in astrology class. He sat next to me but he was always facing the blackboard because he couldn't get himself to actually ask me out. So I had to make the move to ask for his number. It was actually cute in my opinion.
monkey00 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 When I was younger yes many times. Nowadays few girls interest me and they all look the same. So in essence, hardly anymore.
MN randomguy Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Psh, Heck yeah, I'm intimidated every time I think someone is out of my league. GIve him a little time to get over it. Compliment him back. Once he has an answer to the "what does she see in him" question he can relax.
IcemanJB Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I get intimidated by women who are a good deal taller than me, which happens often haha. I've never been intimidated by an intelligent, independent, funny women before...actually, that's the type I go for.
yongyong Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I will be intimidated by a girl like Ivanka Trump for sure
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