Firenza Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Oh Lord, wont this day end for me today? We were together for 3 years, it was a long distance relationship so things were always difficult between us. He was offered a job in US some months ago and he accepted it. I knew that would be the end of us but i hoped we could break up on friendly terms. It ended up with me accusing him of cheating me with his american ex-girlfriend (to whom he was engaged years ago) and him telling me he was sick of my stupid accusations. I apologized for my low confidence on him and he acted like a prick when he told me to do something for him (doesnt really matter what) as a proof of my love for him. I didnt do it and he said goodbye and never talked to me again. That was 2 months ago, some days before he left to US. I never tried to contact him either. Today i got an email from him asking me how i was doing. Also today i found out he is now a married man (the wonderful things about those social networks like myspace and facebook). I assume the wife is his ex-fiancee. So whether he: -cheated on me for 3 years; -cheated on me the last months we were together while planning his wedding; -he didnt cheat one me at all, he just found his ex when he moved to US and got married in those elvis chappels in vegas out of the blue. I dont even know what am i supposed to say here, or how should i feel. Im just... **** how does stuff like this happens?
2sure Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 This is crappy. Normally I would say live & learn, it wasnt meant to be, etc. etc. ad nauseum. But this is soooo fast. You were played, and then punished for it. He was stringing you along and was going to have to break up with you anyway of course - he just used the opportunity to make it your fault. Sorry, I usually take the high road but would be sorely tempted to write a note of "congrats' to he & his new wife.
Author Firenza Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 Sorry, I usually take the high road but would be sorely tempted to write a note of "congrats' to he & his new wife. I dont think i can be that polite right now.
starryskies81 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I am sorry about that. It happens to the best of us. In time though you will be thankful it happened because you don't deserve to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you. Just give it time. Sorry I know that doesn't help too much now
Lucky_One Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I dont think i can be that polite right now. I don't think 2sure was suggesting being polite. "Dear Mark, I was so surprised to read of your marriage to Julie, but wanted to wish you both best wishes. Congratulations on finding love so soon after our break-up in January; that gives me great hope that I can find the love of my life as easily and quickly! If you both ever come to London (or wherever you live), please look me up, so that I may take you to "The George and Vulture" (or any other restaurant where you both ate dinner) for a celebratory meal. Again, congratulations! Affectionately, Firenza" Something along those lines. (Engraved stationery, please.)
2sure Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I don't think 2sure was suggesting being polite. "Dear Mark, I was so surprised to read of your marriage to Julie, but wanted to wish you both best wishes. Congratulations on finding love so soon after our break-up in January; that gives me great hope that I can find the love of my life as easily and quickly! If you both ever come to London (or wherever you live), please look me up, so that I may take you to "The George and Vulture" (or any other restaurant where you both ate dinner) for a celebratory meal. Again, congratulations! Affectionately, Firenza" Something along those lines. (Engraved stationery, please.) Perfect. To the letter. And so polite. Almost as if etiquette itself demands nothing less .
Treasa Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 The awesome thing about email is that you don't have to respond to it. You can just hit Delete.
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