commissar01 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Hi, Im a 17 year old guy in grade 12 of high school. Ive been dating steadily with a gril for the past two years. We have had out hard times and good times but latley things have changed do to some oportunities i have recieved through an exchange program. My gf has become super clingy and isloating herselft from her friends as well due to this and wants to be with me even after ive been away for a year in another country. Now to complicate things i met another girl who is in the same exchange program. we have shared some laughs since we first met a few months ago. Weve been emailing and facebooking alot since then and i think we've connected pretty well. i felt we were friedns at the time but that changed soon. last weekend we saw one another again at another exchange student meeting. she and i spent almost the entire time together. She even sat next to me when she could. By the second day i knew i was head over heels for her. i really wanted to tell her how i felt but did not get the chance as her family and her left b4 i gota chance (not her fault and she apologized about it over email.) Now im back home and she wants me to come visit sometime. I want to tell this girl i really really like her but i dont want to hurt my gf of 2 years even though were likley gonna break up before i go away. I feel like a cheat and this girl ive met has never acknowledged the existence of my gf. And i think she might even like this other guy. I dunno any advice would be lovley.
Bejita463 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 By the second day i knew i was head over heels for her. I'd say this alone means you should break it off with the girlfriend, regardless of what you choose to do (or not do) with the other girl.
DayDreamer75 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Life's too long to be with a person you met when you were 15 and with whom you no longer connect . I think, while you are a teen, you should live your life so that you can experience all the things you like in life and grow as a person and as a man via relationships with many people: friends, girlfriends, so on. You are very young and your relationship is already not working out. Then do the right thing and let her free and free yourself so that you can move towards the next step in your life. Yes, you will hurt your girlfriend if you break up but it will be worse over time if you hang in there just because you don't want to hurt her. You will end up hurting her more. Maybe, instead of telling her directly that you want to break up with her you should sit her down and see what she feels. Maybe, she feels the same, maybe you can work things out in a friendly way.
Kaii Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 You are young and shouldn't be tied up in a relationship that has run it's course. That being said, it is important to do the honourable thing and break it off with your current girlfriend before starting another relationship with this new girl. Good luck to you.
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