Her body...

[entityzero]

I miss it so much.

Its not even like i miss HER so much anymore, just her amazing body.

I never thought i'd be with someone with such an amazing figure, she was small, tight, curvy, tanned.. just gorgeous... even though she thought she was ugly, she never accepted my compliments.

 

So its been 5 months since the break up, shes still with my "friend", I still burn at the thought of them "happy" together.

 

But im happier now, im seeing a new girl and shes great, but she doesnt have the amazing little body i pine for so much.

 

Am i just being shallow? Does it matter my new girl doesnt have the same figure?

Does it matter that mostly everything about my ex is wrong for me, and that i ignored all the red flags at the start of the relationship because she was so hot?

 

Will i ever get over her perfect boobs?

[entityzero]

Yes.

Im a major FAIL.

Are you happy now?

 

Im asking for some constructive advice on how to let go of something superficial.

 

That link was un-constructive and patronizing.

[flash582]

You have to find the positives here.

 

She had some great qualities, but It sounds like fidelity wasn't one of them. Would you really want to spend the rest of your life sharing that body with whoever said the right things to make her feel better about her low self-esteem?

 

What qualities do you really like in your new g/f? What's better.

 

Oh ... and that "perfect" bod won't be perfect in a few years, especially after kids ... so, you got the best of it while it was still there.

[sedgwick]

Oh ... and that "perfect" bod won't be perfect in a few years, especially after kids ... so, you got the best of it while it was still there.

 

Excuse me while I go vomit.

 

 

Im asking for some constructive advice on how to let go of something superficial.

 

That link was un-constructive and patronizing.

 

But all the women there are so THIN and TINY! Don't you like their "amazing little bodies?"

 

If you want to know how to let go, try learning that women are more than a pair of tits. I feel so sorry for your new girlfriend and hope she manages to find someone who will love her for who she is instead of sitting around posting about how her body is inferior to his ex's.

[boldjack]

Dude, Your post WAS superficial AND insulting to all women. Don't think so? Go tell your present girlfriend,"baby, I love you but my ex's body was much hotter than yours" See how long she puts up with that. I predict that you won't have much success with women, until you change your attitude about them. You come across as very immature and selfish.

[sedgwick]

Dude, Your post WAS superficial AND insulting to all women. Don't think so? Go tell your present girlfriend,"baby, I love you but my ex's body was much hotter than yours" See how long she puts up with that.

 

Hello, you just made my night. I love you. :)

[entityzero]

Ok i see what you guys are saying, but the reason im posting this and asking for help is because i KNOW those feelings i have a shallow and wrong, im battling with my own mind because i know in reality it doesnt matter.

Its just my stupid brain.

 

My new girl is absolutely gorgeous and I love her body and everything underneath it, i've never once resented her for not being the same as my ex, the love and care she shows me is more than my ex ever could...

I really dont mean to come across as insulting, i see beauty in alot of girls big or small i think im just having trouble dealing with the fact that my "mate" now gets to enjoy her.

 

 

I want to let go and i want to forget.

I know it's not fair to my new girl if im still thinking about my ex, thats why i need help!

I understand you'd wanna judge me for my comments but please know that im not just looking for a "tiny hot body".. its just i think thats the last thing im having trouble letting go of in my ex.

Im truely sorry to sound selfish and shallow thats really not me at all, its just the one thing about my ex that im having trouble forgetting.

 

Please dont hate.

[burning 4 revenge]

I miss it so much.

Its not even like i miss HER so much anymore, just her amazing body.

I never thought i'd be with someone with such an amazing figure, she was small, tight, curvy, tanned.. just gorgeous... even though she thought she was ugly, she never accepted my compliments.

 

So its been 5 months since the break up, shes still with my "friend", I still burn at the thought of them "happy" together.

 

But im happier now, im seeing a new girl and shes great, but she doesnt have the amazing little body i pine for so much.

 

Am i just being shallow? Does it matter my new girl doesnt have the same figure?

Does it matter that mostly everything about my ex is wrong for me, and that i ignored all the red flags at the start of the relationship because she was so hot?

 

Will i ever get over her perfect boobs?

no no you wont

 

i miss the scent of a woman in desire, her wetness. i miss that more than the person in some ways

 

and yet i still find myself longing for human connection as well

 

were both god and animal

[Art_Critic]

It seems to me that you need to divert all the energy you put into your ex into your new GF.. Your ex is your past and not the future...

 

Give your future the chance it deserves and the ex's memory's will fade...

 

You are spending too much time and energy on your ex and it isn't fair to your new GF.. time to put on your big boy pants and act like a man...

[burning 4 revenge]

It seems to me that you need to divert all the energy you put into your ex into your new GF.. Your ex is your past and not the future...

 

Give your future the chance it deserves and the ex's memory's will fade...

 

You are spending too much time and energy on your ex and it isn't fair to your new GF.. time to put on your big boy pants and act like a man...

its too bad he never met citizen erased while she was here

 

as hes entity zero they could have added the sum of their parts together and still come up with nothing and faded into elysian oblivion

[entityzero]

its too bad he never met citizen erased while she was here

 

as hes entity zero they could have added the sum of their parts together and still come up with nothing and faded into elysian oblivion

 

Hmm.. sounds like thats what most people on here want me to do now i've said what i've said.

 

now even LS hates me... great

[burning 4 revenge]

Hmm.. sounds like thats what most people on here want me to do now i've said what i've said.

 

now even LS hates me... great

carnal desire is part of human nature

 

they're being moralists, but theyre not very convincing. its totally natural to feel how you feel, but the key is to have perspective..which isn't always easy...

[Beautiful Inside]

no we dont we love you!!!! they're just sharing their thoughts and opinions you have to respect them for that.

[entityzero]

Thankyou!

YES, all i want is to gain some perspective.

 

My ex hurt me so much, i've been confused and mentally f**ked up and its been hard for me to work out exactly what it is i want from a woman.

 

And i agree, i think this issue comes from my male instincts and not my head or heart, i know its wrong.

 

Please dont get me wrong, my new GF is so gorgeous, I just wish i didnt think about my ex at all anymore.

My new GF knows where she stands and that im not COMPLETELY over my ex but shes so strong, caring and supportive she's willing to help me through it.

I guess i just need a bit more time?

[burning 4 revenge]

no we dont we love you!!!! they're just sharing their thoughts and opinions you have to respect them for that.

do you get really wet sometimes?

[entityzero]

Thanks beautiful_inside, of course I respect everyone on here, i just didnt wanna be judged as a shallow a-hole when im recognizing its a problem and looking for advice.

[Cherished]

They have sex dolls now, for like $4000. I think you should leave your girlfriend and have a custom-made sex-doll so you have the absolute perfect body and go to it. You can do herall you want and she won't leave you for your friend.

[entityzero]

<sigh>

Why did I even bother?

 

I get the point, im a selfish, shallow man-child who doesnt deserve anything.

[norajane]

Ok i see what you guys are saying, but the reason im posting this and asking for help is because i KNOW those feelings i have a shallow and wrong, im battling with my own mind because i know in reality it doesnt matter.

Its just my stupid brain.

 

My new girl is absolutely gorgeous and I love her body and everything underneath it, i've never once resented her for not being the same as my ex, the love and care she shows me is more than my ex ever could...

I really dont mean to come across as insulting, i see beauty in alot of girls big or small i think im just having trouble dealing with the fact that my "mate" now gets to enjoy her.

 

 

I want to let go and i want to forget.

I know it's not fair to my new girl if im still thinking about my ex, thats why i need help!

I understand you'd wanna judge me for my comments but please know that im not just looking for a "tiny hot body".. its just i think thats the last thing im having trouble letting go of in my ex.

Im truely sorry to sound selfish and shallow thats really not me at all, its just the one thing about my ex that im having trouble forgetting.

 

Please dont hate.

 

Remember that your mate also has to deal with the ugly person underneath those perfect boobs of hers, and will eventually be cheated on or dumped when she wants to show her perfect boobs to the next guy.

 

If you really think your gf is gorgeous and wonderful and you're happy with her, I'm having a hard time understanding why your ex's breasts are so difficult for you to forget and move on. It shouldn't be so hard when you have a great girl right there with you.

 

I think you're still fixated on her body because that's the only good thing about your relationship with her, and you're still angry and hurt that she cheated on you with your friend. You may think you're envious of him for having her body now, but you're displacing your anger and pain.

 

What to do? Consciously stop thinking about it when you catch yourself doing so. Transfer all that energy into your current gf and into being a great guy to her. Don't let her suffer for your ex's bad behavior and for hurting you. If you must think about your ex, compartmentalize it into smalller and smaller pieces of time each day until it's nothing. Set aside time to think about how you're feeling, and if you catch yourself thinking about her during the day stop and tell yourself you'll think about it later.

 

If you don't consciously do this, you'll ruin what you have with your gf, because she may understand that you're not over your ex, but you only get a certain grace period before she's fed up with you and dumps you.

[entityzero]

Thankyou!

 

"I think you're still fixated on her body because that's the only good thing about your relationship with her"

 

Its a good point. In time I have thought about the fact that the physical part of the relationship may of been one of the few GOOD things between us yes.

She just really opened my mind to things in that nature and I guess I feel some sort of "entitlement" to her physically..and I know this is not the case at all.

 

I havent let this get in the way of my new gf and me, I dont think about my ex at all when im with her and love her company amongst alot of other things too...

Its just at night, mostly in my dreams they're always of her coming onto me or teasing me, mean stuff.. really cruel..

 

I know in time i'll forget about her totally in that way I just want it to hurry up so I can really focus my attention elsewhere!

I feel like i've offended people with this post so I appreciate your non-judgemental advice!

[Justanotherschmuck]

Dude, Your post WAS superficial AND insulting to all women. Don't think so? Go tell your present girlfriend,"baby, I love you but my ex's body was much hotter than yours" See how long she puts up with that. I predict that you won't have much success with women, until you change your attitude about them. You come across as very immature and selfish.

 

Insulting to all woman? Please. Then women are overly sensitive. It's not insulting to women with tight little bodies. Thats a fact.

 

Immature? Probably. Insulting. Get a life.

 

Because he thinks one girlfriends body is hotter than anothers, that strange? And even stranger, he is actually gonna TELL the other gf?

 

Answer his farkin question and stop tellin him sheet that has nothing to do with what he is asking.

 

By the way, no it ain't weird to longing for the best body you ever had. But, if that gonna be your number one all your life, you are gonna hook up with a TON of losers before you find a good one.

 

Pluse you'll find that as you get to like someone more and more, their bodies get better and better.

 

My wife is 49 and to me, she has the best body I have EVER laid my eyes upon. I know that wouldn't be what others see, but for me........God, she's gorgeous.

[DJMarky]

Yo dude, i feel your pain.

 

A lot of people are giving you **** for what you said, but really it is not warranted.

 

My ex's body and face was absolutely amazing. Taking her out anywhere would get attention from everyone. Cars would honk, guys would whistle. First time I took her to the beach, guys would approach her or make a comment to me. Then when I took her to my brother's friends party every single guy was coming up to me and saying how they thought she was ****ing hot. She was half thai, half scandinavian, great mix. Body exactly like you are describing. She took care of herself.

 

Anyways, this is how I deal with it.

 

I could have slept with her once I got back from overseas, as she had emailed me saying she wanted me back, but I knew it wasn't worth getting involved again. She is a manipulative bitch, who lied throughout our relationship and ended up ****ing some other dude.

 

There is a reason your relationship ended, and look, she left you for your friend. She isn't worth your time. Focus on that. Looks fade. Could you see yourself marrying this girl?

 

Looks are not everything, and maybe you won't find someone you are more attracted to INITIALLY but think about other aspects. I think that once you develop strong feelings for someone, their overall attractiveness increases ten fold. As long there is some initial attraction, it doesn't have to be extreme, just some attraction. I know guys who have girlfriends I would personally consider un-attractive, but to them they are amazing.

[boldjack]

Entity, You are going thru the maturing process and it's ok to be shallow as long as you realize it and try to change your attitude about women in general and your ex in particular. If I were you I would go NC with your ex, AND with your mate,because he's obviously noy really your mate.

[sedgwick]

do you get really wet sometimes?

 

what the f*ck?!?!?!?!?!?!

 

Insulting to all woman? Please. Then women are overly sensitive. It's not insulting to women with tight little bodies. Thats a fact.

 

I think I need anti-nausea medication. Does anyone have any Dramamine?

[tkgirl]

<sigh>

Why did I even bother?

 

I get the point, im a selfish, shallow man-child who doesnt deserve anything.

 

 

I think everyone is being a little too hard on you... kinda stinks.

 

My feeling is maybe it's not about all about you ex's body but rather the connection you felt with her while making love (etc.) you might have been soooo attracted to her, and loved looking at her so much that the sex was probably amazing at times, right? Which our brain can sometimes translate to this "deep connection" and all that BS that isn't really the truth.

 

I know I am guilty of having feelings like that in the past... I dated this one guy who had the most amazing body and the sex was really great etc... that I ignored all the bad stuff about him... basically he had nothing to offer but his body turned me on so much! Needless to say, that one didn't last! Then the next guy I was with had a much better personality etc... but body? eh... not that it was bad but I couldn't help but compare him to the last guy... and believe me... he fell very short! LOL! Anyways... you learn quickly to move past that stuff though because it's who the person is on the inside. It ended up that my feelings for him became waaaaay deeper than they ever were for hot body guy!

 

Anyways... that's my story... just trying to say we are ALL human here!

 

So give yourself a break... start focusing on this new girl and all her great qualities and see what's there for you two. Time to move on to better things!