searcher Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Two and a half months of what feels like torture. Today I feel like crawling in a hole and dying. How do you learn to live without someone you love so much. I'm struggling to find a reason to carry on living. Yes...I'm having one big pity party...all by myself.
kizik Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 It's OK. We all feel this way at first. Two and a half months is no time at all. Cry, pity yourself, hurt. Go through it. Don't deny it and don't feel silly. It's all part of healing. But also know that it can't and won't last forever. Right now your good moments are few and far between... but in a little while, that's how your BAD moments will be. Hang in there and don't harm yourself.
nordicbeauty Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I feel exactly the same way...I have no great answers, but Im guessing it will get easier with time...if you want to chat let me know and I will give you my email.
Author searcher Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Thanks kizik. I really need to hear this, that it does get better. I know there are a lot of people who's husbands/BF's leave them but I never imagined how soul destroying and painful it could be. I keep waiting for the day I will wake up and not have that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and the pain in my heart...but it is yet to come.
kizik Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Ah, the stomach thing. Completely understand. I think everyone who goes through a big loss has the stomach thing. You can't eat. But you're starving, losing weight and inert, so you force yourself to. Then you just f*ckin gorge sometimes. Anyway, it goes away. I promise. Once the reality of the end of your relationship sinks in, the stomach opens up like the f*ckin plant from The Little Shop of Horrors, waiting for you to feed it.
sultry33 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 kizik has given you great advice:) it hurts like hell i can relate to that and the stomac thing.. but promise you it gets heaps better, there are ups an downs but time does heal.. get busy go out and get busy it works. hugs to you x
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