Mike262 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Ok I have read over a few of the threads here but i don't know if any of them directly apply to me. Here is the VERY condensed version of my story. My girlfriend of around 2 years cheated on me. this was not a "we were drunk" situation. It was calculated and planned. She reconnected with an old college friend (whom is married and has 2 kids) and they started chatting via text and e mail. Turns out she was not entirely happy and he was able to convince her of this even further. They met in at a hotel one night and the rest is history. I only found out because I am a private investigator by trade. I see this ALL the time and I was amazed it could be happening to me. I looked at her phone, saw all their texts (which included pics sent back and fourth one night we were at dinner, I wondered why she had to keep going to the bathroom) and the pics they had sent to each other. We went through a rough couple of weeks but eventually got back together. I have been feeling like every time she has a rough day at work and is in a bad mood that something is going on. I lay in bed at just think about all of it and get so frustrated. I want to move past and there are no real indications anything is going on anymore. I guess i am lookong for people who have been in this situation before.
Tabuu Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 If it is :planned" and calculated, that goes to show U, How much she cares about U?......Dump the B**ch/S**Th, and hook up with a new girl, OBVIOUSLY SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.why bother with hers or the so call RELATIOSHIP. NO TRUST = NO RELATIONSHIP
seibert253 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Been there, done that, learned a valuable lesson. My story: Went out with my girlfriend for 2 years. One night she's out with her best friend, and meets up with a couple of other people we all know. One thing leads to another, and my girl ends up hooking up with this other guy. The other dude and I knew each other, but didn't consider each other friends. Other dude knew this was MY girlfriend. Her best friend dropped the dime on her and told me what happened. Girlfriend fesses up and after a week of her crying and apologizing I took her back. Fast forward. After a year and half of me being away at college, her being home and 12hours away, I learn she's been quite popular with the local dudes. Break up #2. Home for the summer, several weeks of her boo hooing, crying, begging, like an idiot I give her another chance. We get engauged, within 6 months she's out hooking up again. Third times the charm. Got me ring back, said adios, haven't seen her since. She's tried to contact me several times over the last few years, but I just ignore her. Bottom line. ONCE AND CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. Some may disagree, but this is just my opinion. Run Forest Run. Peace.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I guess i am lookong for people who have been in this situation before. I have been in your situation and can tell you point blank....RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN away from this "woman". She cheated once, she will cheat again. She planned it...she planned to open her legs to another man. If you can live with that fact, then good luck. She doesn't deserve a 2nd chance and you deserve better than such an unscrupulous girlfriend. dump the ditch pig.
samsungxoxo Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 So she arranged to meet another dude at a hotel and yet you still want her back??? It's clearly that she doesn't care at all about you and will do it again if given the chance. You are falling to low on this one, don't let her take you for granted which she is doing right now and time to say ''Goodbye to her''. Dump her like the tramp she is.
Sibyl Vane Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Her feelings were not that strong for you. I'm sure she was happy as can be until she started contacting the other guy. Do you really want to wait for the next time she becomes so infatuated with someone (or the same guy) that this happens again? Because if she wasn't "happy" before I'm sure she's feeling just fine being covered in the steaming pile of guilt and blame she's no experiencing. I'm not excusing anything she did, she's not worthy of you in my opinion. Find someone else that will stay faithful to you. There are some of those out there.
lostsunsets Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Man you're a PI, you know the score. She at least needs to experience life without you for a while. Tell her that you can't get past it, thinking you're just there until something better comes along. Curb her and make her win you back or find someone who loves you and isn't waiting a better thing to come along b4 she dumps you..
Tabuu Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 She at least needs to experience life without you for a while. LOL..looks like she wants to xperience more DICKS.
Bryanp Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Mike, I hope you have contacted the OM's spouse since she has a right to know. If the roles had been reversed do you honestly think she would have been as accepting as you have been? Have you both been tested for STD's? It also sounds like she never had any intention of being honest with you but was forced because she was caught. Why would you wish to settle for this? You deserve better than this.
dazedandconfused2008 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Run Forest Run. I like that one. Best advice i ever heard in three short words.
NewSunrise Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Mike, I hope you have contacted the OM's spouse since she has a right to know. If the roles had been reversed do you honestly think she would have been as accepting as you have been? Have you both been tested for STD's? It also sounds like she never had any intention of being honest with you but was forced because she was caught. Why would you wish to settle for this? You deserve better than this. I concur. Contact her MMW. She needs to know. I'm sure you won't have any problems tracking his residence. If I were the wife, I'll take honesty over devastation any day. You will do his wife a huge favor.
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