rugger Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Hey everyone! I am new to the forum, I was recommended to come here because I am in dire need of advice. Please help. I have been with a guy for three years and he broke up with me in August telling me that it was unfulfilling. Well we went two months without talking and then we started talking again in October, sure enough November we became intimate again and we started spending alot more time together. ALOT. So of course I am thinking we are going to get back together or basically we were together. I mean I was there all the time. Well he tells me he loves me all the time and asks me if i love him and i tell him of course i do. Well I asked him was he ever going to ask me to marry him, he told me "in a lil while" so i said okay. Well two weeks ago, he broke off things with me again, I am so sad about it. Its like arent we together?! But he was like he doesnt want a girlfriend. I also found out that his best friend which is a woman that he is really close too, theyve always had feelings towards ach other, but he always tells her she deserves more and isnt willing to ruin the relationship and she agrees. well while he shuts me out he always keeps her in his life always. like she knows more about him that i do, he always goes to her first if anything happens and wouldnt tell me anything..like he never shared alot w me, he would beg her to stay inhis life and i have caught them a couple of times talkinga bout their feelings for each other..he also tells her how he is nt happy and how he wants to be more of a man..i never knew what all this meant so i would be jealous in my mind. he never knew i knew what they talk about. He told me that he can only be a representative for so long and that the time has run its course. I have NO idea what that means! He also told me the only thing he can offer a girl in a relationship is a GOOD TIME. I have no idea what that means! And when we broke up saying "it was unfulfilling" What does these things mean. Do you guys know what these means????! Does he want to be with me? Please help!
starryskies81 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Sounds to me like he is commitment phobic. He seems to bolt everytime things get serious. Also the fact that he says all he can offer is a good time is kinda telling me that he is saying he is not long term material. This best friend of his might have benefits too if ya know what I mean. He is probabaly not willing to commit to either. My advice would be to cut your losses and find someone else. He is just not ready for anything serious and it sounds like you are. There are other guys out there that will commit to you. If you do decide to not talk to him I would make sure to keep it that way because he might just try to weasel his way back into your bedroom again and its just gonna play with your emotions. Good luck!!
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