OCCDAVE Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I got woken up by my phone this morning and guess who it was yep my ex. Hey Dave just wanted to say hi and that i was thinking about you. Like i posted in my other thread its obvious she's not over me or no.I don't wanna get a big head but i sorta get a ego boost seeing her do the pleading and not me.
phineas Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Reading all of your past posts on this, it doesn't sound like she's pleading. It's sounds like she's F'-ing with your brain. If she was pleading, she'd be knocking on your door dressed naughty looking for sex. Not waking you up with a phone call or text early in the morning. Sorry.
kizik Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Yep. Just seeing if you're still going to bend over and take it in is a$s for her. Don't bend over dude.
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Well she broke up with me and I'm not gonna bend over or cave in for that matter
kizik Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I understand how it might be an ego boost, but ultimately it means nothing. As CaliGuy is fond of saying, the only thing that should pique your interest is the following: "I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and I want you back." Anything else is just head games. Did you respond to her retarded text?
badbrit Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 As CaliGuy is fond of saying, the only thing that should pique your interest is the following: "I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and I want you back." I agree with that 100%. I too am curious, did you reply and did you reply to the other texts? My gut tells me you replied to the stuff the other day despite saying you wouldnt.
Truly Lost Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I understand how it might be an ego boost, but ultimately it means nothing. As CaliGuy is fond of saying, the only thing that should pique your interest is the following: "I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and I want you back." Anything else is just head games. Did you respond to her retarded text? Yeah, it might be head games, but saying, "I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and I want you back." is extremely difficult for anyone to say and not very likely. I think it might happen if the dumper suspects the dumpee will be receptive to that comment, but its not going to happen on its own. People in general put their guard up to protect their feelings. Making a statement like that is putting yourself in a very vulnerable position and at risk for rejection. I say if you want to work things out, why not respond? Just proceed with caution. If you don't want to work things out then ignore the text. Its that simple.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 I agree with that 100%. I too am curious, did you reply and did you reply to the other texts? My gut tells me you replied to the stuff the other day despite saying you wouldnt.Nope im sticking to nc so no contact out of me update she sent me another one last night saying hey you awake This girl is confusing:confused:
northstar1 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Nope im sticking to nc so no contact out of me update she sent me another one last night saying hey you awake This girl is confusing:confused: She's fishing, and because you aren't biting she's casting more lines. Ignore her,she'll eventually get the message and stop her ego stroking ways
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 We just had a small convo texting here goes what it said Her-Becca just asked if you were coming to her birthday next week.kids always remember what we wish they'd forget Me-I don't think thats a good idea,Have fun anyway Her-I wasn't inviting you Dave,Just mentioning what she said anyway we will my bf will be here I ignored her at this point she just made my head hurt head then she sent these Her-You know if you wanna say happy birthday or see the kids ...you can Her-It is possible for us to be friends.The kids miss you and ask about you all the time.Us being friends would be good for the kids. So first off she invited me then uninvited me only to reinvite me as you can see and keeps using the kids as bait what do i make of this?
badbrit Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Dave, please ignore her, I know it is hard and she is a cunning one, I will give her that. You had NC'd her I believe so she used her child which kinda made you have to reply. Textbook stuff really. When they are ignored, they have to up the pressure or try a slightly different tact and that is what she did. She was not just "informing" you what Becca said at all, it was a lame and you were supposed to say "yeah I will come". She spun it around to regain the position of power after you did not take the bait. Then she throws in the boyfriend comment to wind you up. IMO as I have said a happy ever after situation with her is not possible, sadly. Once it has gone, once the love has diminished, once something has come between you it is nearly impossible to get it back. To be honest, what she has done, said and how she has behaved all the way through this does not give me any warm feelings that it can turn out well with her. I believe that you could possibly reconcille with her for a short period BUT she would dump all over you again and next time it will hurt a whole heap more. So, either NC her totally which includes blocking her number or play her game. Tell her you will come to the party as would hate to disappoint Becca, tell her you would love to meet this boyfriend and you are sure that he will enjoy borrowing your phone to read all the messages she has sent.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 Dave, please ignore her, I know it is hard and she is a cunning one, I will give her that. You had NC'd her I believe so she used her child which kinda made you have to reply. Textbook stuff really. When they are ignored, they have to up the pressure or try a slightly different tact and that is what she did. She was not just "informing" you what Becca said at all, it was a lame and you were supposed to say "yeah I will come". She spun it around to regain the position of power after you did not take the bait. Then she throws in the boyfriend comment to wind you up. IMO as I have said a happy ever after situation with her is not possible, sadly. Once it has gone, once the love has diminished, once something has come between you it is nearly impossible to get it back. To be honest, what she has done, said and how she has behaved all the way through this does not give me any warm feelings that it can turn out well with her. I believe that you could possibly reconcille with her for a short period BUT she would dump all over you again and next time it will hurt a whole heap more. So, either NC her totally which includes blocking her number or play her game. Tell her you will come to the party as would hate to disappoint Becca, tell her you would love to meet this boyfriend and you are sure that he will enjoy borrowing your phone to read all the messages she has sent.You always have such great advice brit.I agree though then she later tells me you know it is possible for us to be friends it would be good for the kids?Maybe im wrong but wont that confusing to kids if anything else.
LoveLace Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Yeah, it might be head games, but saying, "I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and I want you back." is extremely difficult for anyone to say and not very likely. I think it might happen if the dumper suspects the dumpee will be receptive to that comment, but its not going to happen on its own. People in general put their guard up to protect their feelings. Making a statement like that is putting yourself in a very vulnerable position and at risk for rejection. Exactly, I've recently admitted to a mistake, but I left the "want you back" out of it. The 1st part was hard enough. Someone should know after "sorry" that they have the option to take it or not. The caller just said she's thinking about him, it doesn't necessarily mean she wants him back, but it can definitely mean she's considering it. What she said was good because here he is, left hanging to wonder what that means...you'll probably have to call her if you want to know. If you think it might be worth a shot again, call and see what she has to say to make that decision. Based on that, either give it a chance or tell her you moved on. Let her kiss your ass, if that's what you feel you deserve, but if you don't want her, tell her.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Wow Dave, your ex sounds like one evil bitch. I was thinking the same thing. "I wasn't inviting you"???? :rolleyes: Then stop texting, bitch!
nature Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I'd say to her...."if you really are concerned about what is good for the kids, then you wouldn't be rotating men through your life like a ferris wheel, and would instead, be focusing on yourself and raising your children."
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I'd say to her...."if you really are concerned about what is good for the kids, then you wouldn't be rotating men through your life like a ferris wheel, and would instead, be focusing on yourself and raising your children."Lol Now that would be a slap in the face heh
LoveLace Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Lol Now that would be a slap in the face heh Perhaps she needs that. Say it, why not.
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