katty774 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 When my ex broke up with me, (which he claimed wasn't a break up) I tried to handle it maturely. We even talked & text each other still on a daily basis until one week ago today. I decided it was best for NC but now its killing me. The breakup was his idea because he felt as if he was being a bad person because we were having sex without marriage. He is a good Christian and felt it was wrong to be having premarital sex. We have both been married before and both have gotten hurt in the past in relationships. He is more scared of getting close than me. We are both older Im in my thirties, he is in his forties. We both consider sex a sacred giving and don't believe in casual sex. I won't go into all the boring details but we had a great rs except for his guilt. Now we are broke up because of it. He would call me and tell me how hard it was to be good and he was weak, blah, blah, blah. We have never went this long (which I realize is not that long) without talking and now it is killing me. I just knew he would call or text me by now but he hasn't. Im miserable.
Rogue52 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Methinks more is going on than guilt over pre-marital sex, otherwise, why wouldn't you just stop having sex? You're doing the right thing. Hold firm with no contact. I know it's not what you want to hear. Believe me, I didn't want it either, but I realized it's the only way to move on. If he really cares for you and wants to be with you, he'll be back.
Author katty774 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 I'm really going to try the no contact but it is hard. It's weird because if I didn't know him as well as I do I would think there was more to it to. However one thing I can say about my ex is that he is as honest as the day is long. One thing I didn't mention earlier is that after his divorce he decided to be celibate and had been for two years until we got together. We waited a long time before we did anything and if I had known that 6 months later it was going to cause him so much guilt I never would have giving in. He is the one that pushed the having sex because I wanted to wait. All I know is right now I feel miserable and feel as if I will never heal. I know I will with time, but this fresh wound hurts alot:(
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