beautiful.bronte Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I would like to hear about others stories in how did you meet somebody after a break up. To me it seems so hard to meet a new person that I found it impossible... Thanks
starryskies81 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I for the first time tried a dating site after my divorce. I met a few very nice men off there but I fell in love with the one I have now.
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 After my first 'divorce' I met my first bf (big word ) when I called him for a date.. I knew him, he was my son's baseball coach... I fell head over heels for this guy.. but he wasn't sexual enough for me.. so I dumped him after a few months... Then I met this hot hot hot much younger guy (my first experience with a much younger guy) at a 'singles' dinner' .. he was 18 yrs younger.. we dated for about 6 weeks... it was extremely sexual... but he left me for someone else (that he married a year later, he wanted kids )... Then I saw this guy at the store, in our small town, I knew he was divorced but not sure he had a gf.. so one night I called him to meet for a drink.. I had no clue he was 12 years younger... We fell hard for each other.. and end up living 5 years together... He said he would marry me on my 50th bd... I finally left. (long story)... I've been single since.. almost 7 years now.. and I totally enjoy my life.. For the last 7 years.. I've had more lovers than most women in their entire life.. (3 digits)... I never regretted one second.. I don't think I will ever live with someone... but one can never say never.. who knows... but it's certainly not my priority... I've got too much going on.
flash582 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Match.com .... but I met a lot of weirdo's first. I suggest meeting for Coffee first. That way you can depart without to much hassle.
plane addicted Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Well, first I had a meaningless fling with someone I met in a bar. Then I went on Match and watched the fun unfold. It is fun. I had a 9 month relationship, then met someone else 3 months later at a singles party at a really nice night club. Ages 25 +
flash582 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I guess I should elaborate ...... By age 40 most people have picked up quite a bit of baggage along the way. The big question becomes, is your baggage compatible with their baggage. Everyone wants a matched set of luggage, don't you know. If your baggage is incompatible, or if they have a steamer trunk to your carry on, well, it just isn't gonna <sic> work, because you're going to eventually resent carrying all those extra bags around. The one thing that I found difficult to reconcile was the fact that I had already had all the children I wanted to have. That limited the dating pool tremendously. When you are younger, I think it's just a forgone conclusion that you'll eventually have kids together in most people's minds. So ... if you are going to go on Match.com, or a different service, you should give a lot of thought to what exactly it is that you are looking for and what your deal-breakers are. If you don't know, then I would recommend a different venue for dating at first.
Queen of Hearts Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I have been divorced since May of 08. I dated this man for a while, but found out he was still married, even though he told me he was divorced. Separated is not divorced, so I dumped him. The last time I saw him was in September. I have not been on a date since. I have not met a man I have wanted to go on a date with. I have tried a couple of dating websites, but have not met anyone that has really gotten my attention enough to actually meet in person. I am 34 and have a 4 year old daughter. I am extremely picky as to who I would consider for a relationship as I do not want to introduce her to multiple men, nor do I want to bring a man in the picture who is not worthy of her. I need to make sure, above anything, that the man I get serious with will treat her like she is his own child. I have come to accept that I will be alone for a long, long time. I would be ok with dating someone without her knowing. But, then again, I still haven't found someone that interests me enough to do even that. And, this is where I thank the FSM for the invention of battery operated boyfriends.
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