Do i deserve another chance, should i wait or should i just move on with my life?

[chumchum040203]

Hey guys...... i'm in need of desperate help... sorry soo long, but need as much advice as possible, especially from couples that have been through arguments everyday of thier life.

 

Me and my ex have been together for 1 1/2 years ( on and off ). We broke up the first time because she cheated on me, but 2 months later she ran back to me and i took her back. Second time we broke up was because of me overreacting all the time, she forgave me and got back together. Ever since then we were the best couple ever. During the summer, me and her had the best times together... couple of arguments but managed to get through them. Now that summer is over and that she attends a new school, it has just become worse for the both of us.

 

We would argue almost EVERY single day ( mostly on the phone, very rare in person ) because of me being the jealous and being the overprotective b/f. I have gotten jealous alot and overreacted alot because of this new school. We're both seniors in high school now and both need to focus on school, but it comes to a point where i cant talk to her on the phone anymore, so we forget about doing work and talk to each other instead.

 

Even though we talked on the phone , we still argued alot. We worry soo much about losing each other that it tends to start an argument for some reason. Long story short, 2 nights ago we had another argument over the littlest thing, and now it came it a point where she says she cant take it anymore, and that she needs to start focusing on school and her friends more now than on me. I told her i was sorry and that i made a mistake. I asked for another chance but she refuses, plus her mom told her not to see me anymore! I just dont get it... we would argue on the phone, but when we see each other, its like heaven again. I beg and beg for another chance, but this time she seems like she wants to be independent from now on, untill her schooling is over.

 

She tells my friends she wants to give it another chance, but she's scared and plus she wants to catch up on her grades,also her mom will disapprove completely. Her mom controls her and doesnt let her have a life of her own. Right now she's trying to forget about me, like i never meant anything to her and it hurts to know that . I understand my flaws and i finally do realize that it's very immature of me and that im ready to make one last change.

 

I tried talking to her as friends, but she says she cant talk to me right now because i jus bring her memories of the good times.." is that bad?" and that she'll talk to me some other time

 

If this is true so she can concentrate on school and on her friends, im willing to wait a lifetime for her, but i dont want to wait then hear that she's talking to some other guy while focusing on school, or wait, and realize the whole reason of waiting was for her to forget about me. If she gives me this last chance, i know and am very confident that it would be the best decision she has ever made.

 

please i need help.... should i wait for her, or should i just move on with my life?

 

p.s. this girl is the girl of my dreams and the girl i want to spend my life with;we planned our future together

[ArdeaCandidissima]

The answer to this depends strongly on your age.

 

Since this girl is still under her mother's protection, the right thing is for her to obey what her mother has asked and not to see you.

 

The feelings of love are intense and overwhelming at your age - they do NOT mean that this is the girl of your life. Almost certainly, you will both find others, in addition to completing your educations and developing your personalities until you are both truly adult. And that is a good thing.

 

What else do you have in your life that's good or worthy, that you can focus on? Is there someone who needs your help, like a relative or neighbor?

[chumchum040203]

Thanx for the advice, but i guess i didnt add the important information! Me and her mom are the closest ever! I dont have a mom and she was the mother figure i needed. Her father is like an older brother to me. We are more mature than i sound, and been through soo many obstacles together! Losing her is losing almost my whole heart, and i cant go on without it!

 

 

Well suprisingly her mom came to my house this early morning, and talked to me about her daughter. She says she WANTS me to be with her daughter and that i WAS the future son-in-law of the family. After an hour of chatting about it, she said shes going to try her hardest to talk to her daughter about it. After it happened, her aughter refused and got all pissed off! She saying she wants to be independent in her life, but i know she is lying because i found out that she was crying in one of her classes about everything. I really wish she would give me this last chance! Im soo depressed that, i didnt just lose the girl of my dreams, but i lost a family ( her family ) plus i feel soo damn guilty about it. I dont want to go on with my life knowing i made a damn mistake and am going to be miserable about it the whole way. I want this second chance, but she fiercely refuses.

 

I want her back and im not giving up no matter what the consequences! This is the girl of my dreams and i know it can work out! I mean.. hey!... everybody deserves a second chance, right? Plz help me people!!!

[LuckyStar]

No offense, but you are overbearing and overprotected. You have your whole life ahead of you.

 

You should allow her to concentrate on her education.

 

You are being selfish and unfair. Give it time.