wonderifshelikesme Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 So I won't get into the details but I got really brokenhearted and it took about a year and a half before I finally could 100% say I was over the girl. I also moved, new job, new life, etc...and so I got on Match.com. Finally, I met this girl and I was just like wow. I have to meet her...She's really pretty and was like my dream type of girl...but I gotta be honest I haven't tried hard for a girl since I last fell in love. I ended up getting her attention and so we started talking. We seemed to have a good chemistry and had alot in common, and so she decided that we should meet up and actually sent me her number (I didn't ask because I didn't know if it was "okay" yet). We ended up meeting for a first date and just got some drinks at a place nearby where she lives. I thought it went well...she was everything I expected and I could pick up some flirting from her. I thought anyways! In her smile...eye contact...being close to me...when it was starting to rain when we were leaving and she had an umbrella and so she walked me to my car and when we were being I guess kind of goofy and she was trying to keep me under her umbrella...I could feel something was there. Maybe I'm an idiot... I've made it very obvious I'm not looking to be friends and I'm sure she knows that (not that I would be a dick if she just wanted to be friends, but it seems like we are both looking at it romantically). I'm a cute guy, charming, smart...she has made comments about me seeming "intelligent" and that she really likes that in a guy. I am thinking things were going well. She is a little different than some girls I have dated in the past. Anyways...After the date, I texted her and just said that I had alot of fun and that it was really nice meeting her. I don't normally do that but honestly--I was a little buzzed and really excited because I thought she was great. She responded that It was really nice meeting you too . Okay so that sounds pretty good right? That happens on Wednesday. So, I don't say anything Thursday...Friday afternoon I was in a really good mood and just texted her to say, "Hope you have a great weekend =) I'm pretty stoked to be off work early today--my boss is being really cool!" Like 6 hours later she hits back "Hey, thanks! I hope you have a great weekend too!" So...I'm like okay cool...so we will both go about our weekends I guess, don't want to rush this or anything. Sunday, I txt her and just say, "____, it was really great hanging out with you. I'd love to see you again--maybe sometime this week if you have time?" She didn't get back to me again for like 6-8 hours and I was starting to think she wasn't going to...and she texts back later that night "Yes, of course :)" So I'm like....sweeeeeet! Second date, that's good right! I texted back something like Awesome--I'm really tired so I think I'm going to sleep early tonight but we will have to figure out something for this week. Monday (today) I text her after work just typical, I hope you had a really nice day, blah blah. Then I send a second one, "Whenever you get a chance, let me know what your schedule is like this week so I can figure out when I maybe could see you next ;-)" ^^I would have called her, but in a previous message on Match.com when she gave me her number she said "I'm not really much of a phone conversationalist, so I wouldn't reccomend that." I thought to myself--find with me, I'm not a big phone talker either until I know someone well. But, I find myself afraid to just call her. She did call me when she was meeting me for our first "date". Otherwise we just text. So...she never messaged me back Monday night. I was kind of dissapointed because I thought she sounded pretty enthusiastic and I truly haven't been so intrigued with a girl in a long time. She is 22, in college, works, and is graduating in a month...so she's really busy but I was not expecting her to just not answer. Do you think she's not that interested? Is she playing games with me? Maybe she just didn't answer for a good reason? Maybe I should take a hint??? Did I show too much interest? Maybe I read her all wrong? Ugh...I haven't felt this nervous from a girl in so long. I'd really like to see where things could go with her...but if she doesn't text me back I suppose I'll never talk to her again? Is that stupid? I would love any advice or any takes on the sitaution you may have. Maybe she's just playing a little hard to get and I get a message tomorrow--but maybe I blow it and nothing. But when you say "Jessica, I really had a great time hanging out with you. I'd love to see you again--maybe later this week if you have time?" And she responds, "Yes, of course :)" Isn't that like a good sign? Maybe she's just being friendly and I'm dumb. Ugh...
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Wow. Calm down. It hasn't even been 24 hours, yet. No panic mode necessary. She sounds like she has a lot on her plate - just give her some time.
Island Girl Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Don't panic. Yes it is a good sign that she said "yes of course". But I wouldn't text about the date. Calling to set up a date is not the same as calling to have conversation. You wouldn't have this anxiety if you had just picked up the phone and said, "Hey there. I'd like to take you out again. What night is good for you this week?" Then she gives you the night that works and you establish where. Short and sweet but you are still the guy in the relationship. And as a tip -- even if she has an umbrella - you walk her to her car. If anyone should be walking around in the rain and the dark it's you. Especially if you are interested in her.
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