notwhatiwant Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. My boyfriend and I are very different people, we do things differently and have different views and ways of thinking, but that doesn't mean that we love each other any less. Quite often these differences can cause a bit of strain on our relationship and we can get into big fights. But, I love and care for him so much and I know that he feels the same way. I've had no problems with any of his friends until recently when one of his best friends tried to break us up. He actually stole my boyfriend's phone and pretended to be him, messaging me, saying things to me, refusing to talk to me. Needless to say I was really hurt and confused and when I tried calling this best friend of his to get through to him, he'd act like the nice guy saying things like "I'm really sorry, he just doesn't want to talk to you." I had no reason not to trust this guy and what he was saying. So I had to wait to the next day to talk to my boyfriend. And when I did, he had no idea what was going on, what his friend did or anything. According to this best friend of his, he thinks I'm 'hurting' my boyfriend, because we get into a lot of fights. I acknowledge that I've said some things that I regret, as my boyfriend has too, during our worse fights. And I can understand that he might think he is doing what's right by protecting his friend, but to interfere like that... It just makes me so angry. (And that wasn't the last time he tried to interfere.) My close friends might have thoughts on our relationship and our fighting, but at least they have enough respect to not interfere. At least they understand that despite our differences we want to be together and want to work to make our relationship work. What really ****s me is that I know he's been talking crap about me to the rest of my boyfriends friends and I can tell that they're listening to what he's saying. I don't see the worth in trying to fight back by spreading things and telling people my side of the story, trying to convince them (I doubt by now they'd even listen to what I might have to say). I don't want to create a war and I know it must be hard enough for my boyfriend already, having the divide of his closest friends against his girlfriend. Argh! It just infuriates me so much! I've probably ranted on enough... I'd really appreciate some advice on what to do in this situation, if there is anything I can do... It's not a nice feeling being the enemy.
Lucky_One Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I don't think there is much that YOU can do. But there is a whole lot that your BF can do. Why hasn't he told his BEST friend to knock it off, that he loves you and that he knows that there are some issues but that the two of you are committed to working them out together? I would want to smack Mr. BF upside the head if he couldn't manage to be more protective and proactive of your relationship.
IcemanJB Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 If my best friend ever pulled that childish **** on me, I wouldn't hesitate to call him out and tell him to knock it off. Of course I can say with 100% certainty that he would never do that to me. If he had a problem with my GF, he would just stay out of it. Anyways, your BF better be at least saying something to this "friend" of his. I hate passive-aggressive bullcrap like this. They're HIS friends, he should be resolving this situation.
bean1 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 You guys must be very young... we (my friends and I) used to do that to a friend of ours and his gf (we didn't like her, she was 15, we were all 17). We used to party at his house, but when he got a girlfriend, the parties stopped. He stopped drinking, etc. Anyways, 10 years later, and they are still together! I must say though... he always stood up for her. Why isn't your boyfriend standing up for you? What do they mean by "hurting him"???
mr.dream merchant Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Damn duke your BF's friend sounds lame as hell.
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