Jackson24 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I thought I'd start a more positive thread. I want to do something really special for my girlfriend. A special night, something outrageous. I'm willing to spend time and money to do this, cause I want this to be something she'll never get. So give me all your ideas, experiences, everything, no matter how crazy or unrealistic, I wanna hear them.
Lucky_One Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I don't know about outrageous, but honestly, one of the nicest things that a man has done for me was to bring me a chocolate meringue pie that he baked all by himself (a Pilsbury crust!). It was our first date, and he found out from a mutual friend that my birthday happened to be the next night. He got off work early, went home and baked the pie, and brought it to my house still warm. Another really really thoughtful thing that my current BF did was to have an automatic starter put in my car in October. He knows I am really cold natured, and if he is here, he would go out and start my car; if he is gone, then I had to go do it myself. The same pie BF surprised me with a canoe ride picnic one time. Fried chicken (he didn't fry it!), icy beers, apples. He paddled me through a beautiful, ancient and hidden swamp for hours while I laid back on his chest on the floor of the canoe. I don't necessarily care about the costs of things - I like it when a man is thoughtful and has really paid attention to me and to what would please me or make my life easier or more fun. So maybe some other girl can give you something more extravagant - but your girl also may just like something a bit more simple.
popey Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I'm w/ Lucky One. Luxurious things are wonderfull and romantic too, but not the things that stand out. Things that stand out are unique and personal. Like, I love coffee. I had a bf who didn't drink coffee, and therfor didn't have a coffe maker at his place. Our first Christmas together, he gave me a coffee maker for his place. It was probably $30, but stands out in my mind b/c it was thoughtful. I know you don't want to give her a coffee pot for your special night. My point is that special is personal.
Isolde Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 If you're going to spend some money might as well make it a day trip, like hiking, to somewhere neither of you have been before. Spend the night at a cosy bed and breakfast. Don't do elaborate cheesy things, just have a fun day and a fun night. A change of location can be really romantic.
EllieBean Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 My bf made a Youtube channel for me, and uploaded some videos he made himself, videos of places that were special to us and other nice stuff like him playing his guitar or reading poetry. Every now and again he uploads a new video for me I also recall one time that he sat me down with a special cocktail that he made, lit some candles and put on music for me to relax, then he cooked dinner all by himself (plus wine and dessert). Then we retired upstairs and he gave me a full body massage with a nice scented oil, which led to the inevitable, although that was focused on me enjoying myself too! He had bought one of those glass dildos that light up, and it looked amazing in the darkened room!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 In this vein, the most wonderful and thoughtful things are always those that take her loves, opinions, and feelings into account. This one may sound a little silly, but it meant so much to me: My last boyfriend told me early on that there were only four foods he hated, and popcorn was one of them. The first time he took me out on a movie date, he was just beaming, radiant, and so happy. He picked a movie he never would have seen on his own, but one that he thought I would love (Mr. Bean's holiday -- I love Mr. Bean! ). He would not let me even look at the marquee, so I would be surprised once the movie started. After he got the tickets and we walked in, knowing how much I love popcorn, he's like, "Can I get you anything, Honey? How about some popcorn?" And I was like, "YOU? Want to get popcorn?!" And he goes, "Anything to keep that beautiful smile on your face." :love: Naturally, I melted. Into a little puddle of butter topping. And he actually ate the popcorn with me, and later said he had changed his mind about it and liked it!!! I can think of dozens of examples, but this one illustrates perfectly that what will make her feel more special than anything is seeing you delight in showing her a great time that is truly tailored to what she enjoys. Good luck!
notwhatiwant Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I've been wined and dined, had things bought for me, etc. etc. But the gifts I've received that stand out are the ones that have a lot of thought and effort put into them. And I can appreciate it a lot more because I know that it would have taken a lot of time and effort and that he did it for me. Even if it's a simple thing like having him take a couple of weeks to perfect a mix tape for me or to hand pick flowers and arrange a bouquet for me. I'll take a crappy birthday card hand made with love and effort over the biggest, prettiest, shiniest, most expensive one bought from a store. Sacrifice some time, love and effort and she'll appreciate it all the more.
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