clv0116 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Well that's going to be a major bugbear. There's unlikely to be a functional parent that would be particularly keen on you marrying their daughter. Oddly enough you're wrong again.
You'reasian Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 See now that sounds like fun. Spontaneous sex is hella fun.
Just Angel Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Was rather sad to see how quick some ppl took offense to others desiring "traditional gender roles" in their relationship. To each their own right? At least give kuddos for them knowing what they want/is important to them, regardless of your own beliefs/issues. As for cooking, my hubby, when we started to date, said that it was important to him that I had at least the willingness to learn. Sure, you can always do take out or w/e, but if your value system includes a stay at home wife with kids, cooking really is crucial financially and health wise, imho. Hubby also tells me that he can taste and feel the love in the meals I make for him and our children. (love language)
CommitmentPhobe Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Oddly enough you're wrong again. Unlikely, clv if a guy with your attitudes towards the opposite sex went anywhere near my sister you'd be getting shown the door by both parents and brothers. And given the response you elicit from many of the females on this forum I doubt you are going to be winning too many mother in laws over either. They have this uncanny knack of being able to judge motive a mile away. And no father wants to give his child away to someone of a similar age.
clv0116 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Unlikely, clv if a guy with your attitudes towards the opposite sex went anywhere near my sister you'd be getting shown the door by both parents and brothers. Actually if anything, the in-laws are always too in favor of the whole deal. If they're as omniscient as you say maybe you're also wrong about me.
CommitmentPhobe Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Actually if anything, the in-laws are always too in favor of the whole deal. If they're as omniscient as you say maybe you're also wrong about me. I'm not wrong about you, I know this from a)being a guy with experience, and b)protecting my sister from guys like you. I doubt you have any idea what it's like to have a great looking sister and all the nonsense guys give her. As it is she has a great boyfriend that doesn't treat her as a possession so I'm pretty comfortable with that. It's unlikely that the in-laws are particularly functional and want the best for their daughter if they're welcoming in someone almost twice her age in with open arms. That's not what I'd classify as functional anyway.
clv0116 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 It's unlikely that the in-laws are particularly functional and want the best for their daughter if they're welcoming in someone almost twice her age in with open arms. That's not what I'd classify as functional anyway. Nice, you've progressed from insulting me to also insulting the girls I date and their family. Well done.
Sam Spade Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Also about that... if the guy is worth it... he shouldn't judge me because my family is dsyfunctional. I mean I didn't chose to have drug addict parents. And I am clean. I know it will probably be an issue with my BF, or any other relationship I might have in the future. I have such anxiety about the whole situation. But they shouldn't look down on me because of things in life that I could not control. I am a good person. And I have had a hard life. That's all. This is actually important issue. Of course no sane guy will judge *you* because of your family! The issue is do you/can you keep their problems away from you and your relationship? This was a huge deal in my last relationship... My ex was selfless to a fault, but the result was that she never put herself (and our relationship first), so her crazy family did wreck havock in her life (and in our relationship). I still oved her, but this was already becoming a major issue as far as considering long-term plans was concerned... (As far as the whole cooking thing is concerned, as long as you're not militantly opposed to doing any cooking ever, this is not an issue IMO. I'm also not a huge fan of cooking, but do it anyway because it is important part of domestic comfort. So, like with so many other things, it is just another way of putting some effort in the relaitonship and to show you care etc. )
CommitmentPhobe Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Nice, you've progressed from insulting me to also insulting the girls I date and their family. Well done. How is it an insult when I'm stating a clear fact to you? If you want to take it personally that a functional parent or sibling would wonder what the motives are of an older guy that specifically looks for an age gap relationship then that's up to you. I'm just surprised you're not used to it as if I was dating someone almost half my age it's one of the first things I'd be worried about.
lino Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I mean would any guy in here look past the fact that I don't cook. Cooking together could be fun, and maybe I could learn that way. But once again its the confidence that I do not have. Don't worry too much, the fact that you'd be happy to learn to cook with your partner is a great thing. Not everyone had someone to teach them how to cook, I've been lucky to have a mother & uncle that are great chefs who taught me a lot in the kitchen when I was growing up.. If you were my lady id be only too happy to cook with you & teach you what I know
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