9Lives Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Guys, What is the qualities you look for in a woman that makes you want to marry her? I have been married before but my ex husband and I had a child so we got married. We loved each other but that is why we married really. We were together for 12 years. So now my questions is what makes you say to yourself....Im going to marry her? Alot of times, guys already KNOW that the woman they are dealing with will not be their wife. But she is good enough for right now. What are you looking for when you want to marry
mr.dream merchant Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 -Attractive -In shape -Great personality -Loves me for me -Sex is good -Respectable lady, not too promiscuous but just enough for her to be a freak in the sheets, not the streets. -Gets along with family (not so important but very nice if present!) -Supportive of whatever I'm passionate about -Doesn't have an entitlement complex -Willing to accept equal partnership, none of that treat me like a princess stuff. -Can cook That's all I can think of.
JohnnyBlaze Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 There are always compatibility issues (life goals, family goals, attitude, etc, but the most important is waking up next to her after being together for a year or two (or however long) and still thinking "wow, I am the luckiest sunofab_tch in the world". It's not when I can imagine spending the rest of my life with her; it's when I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without her. That's when I really know she's the one for me.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 -Attractive -In shape -Great personality -Loves me for me -Sex is good -Respectable lady, not too promiscuous but just enough for her to be a freak in the sheets, not the streets. -Gets along with family (not so important but very nice if present!) -Supportive of whatever I'm passionate about -Doesn't have an entitlement complex -Willing to accept equal partnership, none of that treat me like a princess stuff. -Can cook That's all I can think of. I would add: - intelligent - supportive - not bossy - loyal - not slutty
mehim Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 they want someone who respects herself, smart, good looking, can cook, dresses nice, from a good family, supports his goals, there for him through the good and bad. push him to be the best, encourge him, accept him the way he is, and not want to change him. also someone who takes care of herself and him offcourse. communication is also important. have similar background, share the same values.
CandyGirlXO Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 LMAO yeah I am so screwed! Forget it, I am never getting married.
OpenBook Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 someone whose like his mother LOL I really think there's a lot of truth in this.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Hmmm. Loyalty, a sense a humor, things in common, common goals, compromises, sexy in bed and is willing to work on issues that get in the way of our relationship together, that's some of the few things.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 they want someone who respects herself, smart, good looking, can cook, dresses nice, from a good family, supports his goals, there for him through the good and bad. push him to be the best, encourge him, accept him the way he is, and not want to change him. also someone who takes care of herself and him offcourse. communication is also important. have similar background, share the same values. Damn this is so accurate.
Author 9Lives Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 these qualities are not hard to find from what I can see....Whats the problem? Seems like alot of women are like that
Sam Spade Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Here's my list: - pretty, but not too hot - mellow/sweet/kind/thougthful (not sure if these are different things or variation of the same thing) - loyal/reliable - having a family and kids is an obvious priority for her - can make some sort of money, but is not in some stereotypical uber-demanding career. Will be able to take some time off work for kids and then go back to work without too much catch-up. That's pretty much it. Not a short list, but also doesn't seem like too much to ask.
Butterflying Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 these qualities are not hard to find from what I can see....Whats the problem? Seems like alot of women are like that You're right. That is the reason people cheat. They marry one person out of the various other options. And then they start looking for someone else when they get bored, or greedy. OP, perhaps these answers describe the qualities women have that men are prone to marry. But the things that make people get married often have nothing to do with qualities. Often times, it's circumstances. Age. Religion. Children. Money. Social status. Companionship. Healthcare.
GorillaTheater Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 someone whose like his mother LOL I think it depends on the mom. My wife is almost a polar opposite of my mom. Thank God.
alphamale Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 What are you looking for when you want to marry a woman who is a good cook and knows when to leave me alone
runner Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 committed responsible respectful of others and herself supportive communicative passionate similar values wants/likes children friendly
zhsoj Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Since I find this to be a silly question, I'm going with the ultimate answer: money. It works both ways girls, you can make more money by marrying someone in 10 minutes then you can make in an entire lifetime.
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 someone whose like his mother LOL Hey, don't laugh, I firmly believe this! The spoiled princess men, look for Wendy's. The men with healthy, happy relationships with their mothers, look for balanced women. The men with horrible, abusive mothers, look for drama-coaster relationships.
clv0116 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Partial list in no particular order: SingleNo kidsWants kidsUnder 30, prefer mid-20sAttractiveSimilar life goals and valuesSerious about physical fitnessGood stay at home skillset, including things like cooking and other homemaking skillsWants to be a stay at home wife
gd26 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 When men say they want a woman who is a 'good cook', should I presume that they mean they want to dump all the responsibility of cooking and meals on her? Are you guys great cooks yourselves?
bayouboi Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 When men say they want a woman who is a 'good cook', should I presume that they mean they want to dump all the responsibility of cooking and meals on her? Are you guys great cooks yourselves? You should probably start another thread for your question here This poster wanted to know what we were looking for, not question whether or not we're worthy to receive that which we're looking for
GorillaTheater Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The men with horrible, abusive mothers, look for drama-coaster relationships. The men with arguably horrible, slightly abusive mothers, and themselves have a few critical thinking skills, look for wives with some acceptable level of emotional stability and healthiness. At least in my experience.
2sure Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Am I being awful? To be honest, I think the old cliche still holds true. - A Lady in the Boardroom (class & competence) and ..the opposite (its all relative) in the Bedroom (erotic, open minded). I know its general, but it works for a lot of people
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The men with arguably horrible, slightly abusive mothers, and themselves have a few critical thinking skills, look for wives with some acceptable level of emotional stability and healthiness. At least in my experience.I think it comes with age and experience, that some are able to amend their foundational beliefs of what love and a relationship mean. This encompasses both genders.
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